More than a spanking

[NannyPenne]

Thought I might take the spanking one step further. I quite enjoy a good flogging and even having a paddle used as well, however I do find that a cane or crop or anything that is "stingy" more than I can cope with. Yet I have seen others that have taken more than 50 hits with a cane, and believe me, they were not soft, yet the person receiving was completely turned on by it.
In fact, "straight" sex does nothing for me any more, I find it not just boring but a complete turn off. For me, the psychological side is what turns me on more than anything else.
Are there others who enjoy more than a spanking, prefering the psychological part or am I totally perverted?
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[knowitall]

Well I guess it's different strokes for different folk's...;D

No I don't think you're totally perverted.

 

[Minxxy]

Nanny It is hard once you start getting into kinky sex to have vanilla sex.

I had an ex who I used to wrestle around the bed with, getting really physical with the aim of one person to pin down the other. Sometimes we would really hurt each other, but it just added to the appeal, getting the heart racing and ultimately ending in wild rough physical sex.

My current partner believes the only sex is making love - all about the emotional connection. Which means rough sex is off limits. When I have told him about some of my wild adventures, including swinging and the rest, he thinks I am a bit of a deviant. There hasnt been any coming on my boobs, threeways, handcuffs, sex on the balcony, choking or anal sex in my life since we got together *sigh*

I am looking on the bright side and seeing the positives, and have relegated my old habits to the spank bank for the time being. He knows I have a goody drawer with all my sex toys, outfits and sexual accessories but isnt interested right now...

One day at a time...

Oh and on the subject of spanking, it isnt my cup of tea. I used to have a braided leather riding crop but that was more for me to dominate my partners than for them to hit me with.

 

[SubNymphet]

I must say i love a spanking, caning or flogging! i hae to be in the mood mind you... doesnt take much to get me there though... my partner has recently started showing a bit of interest in kinky sex (after 5 years mind you!) hes always loved hard fast sex (me riding him) but he has started spanking me recently but he hasnt quiet got the timing right... gives me more of a shock than turning me on! haha...

but i had a wonderful experience about a year ago with a wonderful Dominant who showed me all there was to know about spanking and flogging, leaving welts and bruises all over my arse and i loved it, everytime he connected i got more and more turned on! it was amazing! hmmmmmm great memories... i need to find someone to do this to me again..... mmmmmm

 

[sumguy]

SubNymphet -
You've had a whole year to train your partner!

I'm sure each person has a rhythm, but it requires some experience on behalf of the spanker to spot where the spankee is at, without being told, (not much of a domination session if the dominated needs to instruct the dominator).

Maybe try gathering a few vids off the net as an instruction for your partner. In conjunction with a bribe of better sex after the spanking, I'm sure he will put more effort into it.

P.S. I know nothing of the dark art of spanking, (unless monkeys count).

Minxxy
I understand where your BF is coming from, but since it brings you pleasure it is not "violence". I would have thought the emotional connection would make him want to please you more - let's hope he comes around soon.
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For what it is worth, I recall reading that the closer one is to orgasm, the higher the tolerance to pain is, so I expect that has something to do with why spanking works, (for some at least).

Also, pain is relative. There have been experiments where someone was locked in a soft room and deprived of light and sharp or hard edges for a prolonged period. When that person came out, just touching hard surfaces was described as painful, and light hurt the eyes, (I'm sure we have all had that one). It seems your nerves adjust to the level of stimulation over time.

Just thought I would bore the thread to death...

 

[Minxxy]

Sumguy

Thanks for the kind words... Like I said, I will try one day at a time. These things have a slowly slowly approach....

 

[MASTER WIZARD]

Greetings all,
I had the good fortune, to be trained/mentored many years ago by a professional Dominant, who had me whipping, flogging and caning pillows for a full year before He was satisfied that I was trained well enough, to touch another person.
There are a number of reasons why some people submit to "heavy" pain-play. The most common 2 are (1) an endorphin "hit" this being the opiate-like substance produced by some people in response to high pain levels. And (2) Sub-space, an altered state of consciousness, where the reciepient "Trips-off".
In both of these situations care is required by the Top/Dominant that He/She is fully aware of the bottom/subs state of consciousness. And when these situations occur that the endorphin "sub" is fully conscious and properly "grounded". before leaving him/her.
The sub-space "sub" requires quite a degree of care to return him/her to full awareness, and under NO circumstances should a person in "Sub-space" be left un attended as they are seriously vulnerable, and if not properly cared for can come to serious psychological harm.

Another common reason that some people "submit" themselves to heavy pain-play, is that this is the only way they can "get out of their head(s)". People with a requirement to function in a high level of concentration, lose touch with their body sensations and "forget" how to reconect, for these people pain "forces" them to "reconect"!

And then there is "Balance" people with ocupations that require them to "Give orders" or "control" other people, find that to stay "sane" they need to relinquish control to some-one they can trust.

Bringing us to the point, that to submit to any-one there Must be a high level of Trust, and the knowledge that the Top/Dominant has the required level of skill and judgement to deliver the desired level of pain without causing HARM

 

[SubNymphet]

very well said Master Wizard. i must say from what i have experienced i enjoy all three aspects that you have mentioned there.

For me, i was first realised enjoyed being spanked etc when i was least expecting it. i had just started my own business and was stressed to the point of breakdown and was out on the town, trying to switch off, and met a group of people and just started talking about sex and bdsm, and just the idea of relinquishing all control to another just hit the spot, was just what i was looking for.

I also find pain, in everyday life an amazing thing. certain feelings, like banging my toe or even getting a tattoo, as much as something may hurt, i enjoy it and get turned on by it. its as though it brings me back to reality somehow? hmmm

and sub-space... WOW what an amazing sensation. have only once truely entered sub space... the most intense feelings you could ever imagine! (the MOST intense ORGASMS!!) its something i would most definatly be willing to experience again if i was able to find the right Dom/Domme that i could trust... i was in a daze for a good few hours, body trembling from head to toe after... mmmm


and just a random fact i read in a mag today... people who dabble in light BDSM are happier and easier going in their general life....
good to know! i hate to think what a mess i would be if i hadnt discovered this wonderful world of bdsm!

 

[sumguy]

LOL, well plenty of people cut and injure themselves as a form of release.

 

[MASTER WIZARD]

Greetings once again,
Unfortunately I'm a single digit typist, so last nights post took about half an hour to post.
Continuing: My preference is for "Electrical-play" which means in the main the use of one (at a time) of my "Violet-Wand(s), this is an electro-magnetic discharge device, that can go from barely perceptable to pain of about the same as a tattoo gun!
However when passed through me first, and just using my fingertips, I have managed to put a number of people into "Sub-space", not that this is always my desire, as I then lose the next half to one hour bringing them back!

My other device is a S.E.N.S (Simmilar to a T.E.N.S.) machine Subcutaneous Elecctro Nerve Stimulator. Used in conjunction with acupuncture needles (I'm an acupucturist). This device tends more to the "Endorphin high.

I have to go out now so I'll add to this somewhat later, perhaps on needles?

 

[MASTER WIZARD]

Greetings all,again,
If it worked for me I will have uploaded a picture of my girl with some hyperdimic syringe needle inserted subcutaneously, and with some coloured fethers under the needles!
This being another type of sensation play...Not very painful, however it is a means of pushing limits, when there is a fear of needles!
Limits: another important aspect of B.D.S.M. play. Before starting any play with someone that there is not already a familiarity with, it IS important to discuss "limits", that is what the bottom/sub, will readily submit to, what they may submit to if all is well, and he/she feels safe with the Top/Dom. And what are "Hard"limits, that is *do not go there*. This also applies to the Top/Dom. For example I personally have a "Hard" limit on excrement play. . . That beeing I'm not into "Scat" or playing in or with "Shit"!(Take that as you may)