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Lonely

Hi Amelia
It is so lovely to hear someone starting a thread about what many private girls feel from time to time. I myself have been private & worked alongside many other private girls and I can tell you with 100% surety this is a common problem with many. The trick is to reach out, expand your sources/referrals with the girls in the industry rather than just the clients.

If you have a work phone & private number, send a message through to another WL on Scarlet Blue with similar services or someone you think you would be compatible with also friendship & booking-wise. Then ask wether they would want to be a double with yourself for bookings if you ever get anything through from a client & if so ask if they would like to meet up for a coffee to discuss how you would work together in the doubles bookings. It is a great professional start to building a relationship & friendship with another WL.

On the other hand - Also need to respect there are some private girls who work that have a very different working method & don’t like to socialise with other escorts. Some even find socialising in the industry can suck them in for longer if they are planning on only working short term or for the longer term girls some even find it knocks their work strategies & productivity. I noticed that a lot of private girls can tend to be very competitive, even if putting on a friendly front will try and undermine or compare with one another. So just do as you would a client - gage based on their persona, advertisement etc.

Alternatively, if you ever would like someone to vent to or even catch up for a coffee to pass some time in between bookings - feel free to message myself. My work number is 0466 182 401.
From personal experience of having myself outed to a lot of my family & friends out of my control by a third party; it is a great feeling to have the support of friends & family but it is never the same as having someone who is in or has been in your shoes. It can also take its toll on them xx

Your never alone love! Hope everything has been working out well for yourself 🌹
 
TheAlexisGrey said:
Hi Amelia
It is so lovely to hear someone starting a thread about what many private girls feel from time to time. I myself have been private & worked alongside many other private girls and I can tell you with 100% surety this is a common problem with many. The trick is to reach out, expand your sources/referrals with the girls in the industry rather than just the clients.

If you have a work phone & private number, send a message through to another WL on Scarlet Blue with similar services or someone you think you would be compatible with also friendship & booking-wise. Then ask wether they would want to be a double with yourself for bookings if you ever get anything through from a client & if so ask if they would like to meet up for a coffee to discuss how you would work together in the doubles bookings. It is a great professional start to building a relationship & friendship with another WL.

On the other hand - Also need to respect there are some private girls who work that have a very different working method & don’t like to socialise with other escorts. Some even find socialising in the industry can suck them in for longer if they are planning on only working short term or for the longer term girls some even find it knocks their work strategies & productivity. I noticed that a lot of private girls can tend to be very competitive, even if putting on a friendly front will try and undermine or compare with one another. So just do as you would a client - gage based on their persona, advertisement etc.

Alternatively, if you ever would like someone to vent to or even catch up for a coffee to pass some time in between bookings - feel free to message myself. My work number is 0466 182 401.
From personal experience of having myself outed to a lot of my family & friends out of my control by a third party; it is a great feeling to have the support of friends & family but it is never the same as having someone who is in or has been in your shoes. It can also take its toll on them xx

Your never alone love! Hope everything has been working out well for yourself 🌹
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There are fights that aren’t meant to be fought alone.
Sometimes it takes courage to admit we need help and you should always look for shelter in the ones we trust and love.
Depression feels like an epiphany where one day we wake up to an overwhelming sensation of loneliness and the truth is most of the time we’ve dig the hole where we waked on.
Nowadays, most of us have to leave with the felling of unfulfilling the unrealistic goals that once we’ve set to ourselves, and in that case, with just have to step back and find peace and start loving and accepting who we really are. We’ll never be our best version of ourselves but that is the all purpose of trying.
last, your girls provide a fairytale to the men who reach you. You put all the energy and heart in a moment that last 1 or maybe a couple of hours and in the end while the man walks away with a dream made reality he actually took a piece of you with him.
I’ve always expressed my admiration for the ladies who make the dreams come true. Even thou I’ve never experienced myself - still have to work around my conscience - I do feel that you girls are truly special human beings for what you do.
I’ll always be available for chat if you need to vent.
There will always be someone who cares and wants to listen to you.
All my love to the ones who fight daily with the black dog
Don
don587955@gmail.com
AmeliaKennedy said:
Hey everyone!

Warning deep and meaningful 🤭

One thing I have struggled with since going private is being lonely, obviously this line of work is not something you want to tell people so it's kept a secret which means you don't have many people to lean on. It also means you are not chatting to colleagues or getting to spend time with the girls because your private your on your own alot...

What do other girls do to stop the loneliness of the industry from creeping in? I have always worked in very social team environments so it's a shock when most days unless I'm with a client I'm alone in my own thoughts.

How do you make friends in this industry when it's such a secret?

Xx
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There are fights that aren’t meant to be fought alone.
Sometimes it takes courage to admit we need help and you should always look for shelter in the ones we trust and love.
Depression feels like an epiphany where one day we wake up to an overwhelming sensation of loneliness and the truth is most of the time we’ve dig the hole where we waked on.
Nowadays, most of us have to leave with the felling of unfulfilling the unrealistic goals that once we’ve set to ourselves, and in that case, with just have to step back and find peace and start loving and accepting who we really are. We’ll never be our best version of ourselves but that is the all purpose of trying.
last, your girls provide a fairytale to the men who reach you. You put all the energy and heart in a moment that last 1 or maybe a couple of hours and in the end while the man walks away with a dream made reality he actually took a piece of you with him.
I’ve always expressed my admiration for the ladies who make the dreams come true. Even thou I’ve never experienced myself - still have to work around my conscience - I do feel that you girls are truly special human beings for what you do.
I’ll always be available for chat if you need to vent.
There will always be someone who cares and wants to listen to you.
All my love to the ones who fight daily with the black dog
Don
don587955@gmail.com
 
TheAlexisGrey said:
Hi Amelia
It is so lovely to hear someone starting a thread about what many private girls feel from time to time. I myself have been private & worked alongside many other private girls and I can tell you with 100% surety this is a common problem with many. The trick is to reach out, expand your sources/referrals with the girls in the industry rather than just the clients.

If you have a work phone & private number, send a message through to another WL on Scarlet Blue with similar services or someone you think you would be compatible with also friendship & booking-wise. Then ask wether they would want to be a double with yourself for bookings if you ever get anything through from a client & if so ask if they would like to meet up for a coffee to discuss how you would work together in the doubles bookings. It is a great professional start to building a relationship & friendship with another WL.

On the other hand - Also need to respect there are some private girls who work that have a very different working method & don’t like to socialise with other escorts. Some even find socialising in the industry can suck them in for longer if they are planning on only working short term or for the longer term girls some even find it knocks their work strategies & productivity. I noticed that a lot of private girls can tend to be very competitive, even if putting on a friendly front will try and undermine or compare with one another. So just do as you would a client - gage based on their persona, advertisement etc.

Alternatively, if you ever would like someone to vent to or even catch up for a coffee to pass some time in between bookings - feel free to message myself. My work number is 0466 182 401.
From personal experience of having myself outed to a lot of my family & friends out of my control by a third party; it is a great feeling to have the support of friends & family but it is never the same as having someone who is in or has been in your shoes. It can also take its toll on them xx

Your never alone love! Hope everything has been working out well for yourself 🌹
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Hey Don ,
As Amelia may remember I advocated on this site for WLs to go ahead with a breakfast club that had been suggested on another thread, but just for escorts .. private or establishment and very informal. It is a very closed community, and I guess may be a bit competitive. I hope someone takes up that challenge and starts something really worthwhile. Don't have time? May need to prioritise .. mental health is more important than someone getting their rocks off!
I also have great respect and admiration for the work these strong, beautiful women do. The only down side for me is that when the fantasy ends .. it's back down the hole into reality, and a stark reminder of what I don't have. Oh well ... can't have it all 🤗😊
 
Paco said:
Hey Don ,
As Amelia may remember I advocated on this site for WLs to go ahead with a breakfast club that had been suggested on another thread, but just for escorts .. private or establishment and very informal. It is a very closed community, and I guess may be a bit competitive. I hope someone takes up that challenge and starts something really worthwhile. Don't have time? May need to prioritise .. mental health is more important than someone getting their rocks off!
I also have great respect and admiration for the work these strong, beautiful women do. The only down side for me is that when the fantasy ends .. it's back down the hole into reality, and a stark reminder of what I don't have. Oh well ... can't have it all 🤗😊
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Couldn’t agree more
 
AmeliaKennedy said:
Hey everyone!

Warning deep and meaningful 🤭

One thing I have struggled with since going private is being lonely, obviously this line of work is not something you want to tell people so it's kept a secret which means you don't have many people to lean on. It also means you are not chatting to colleagues or getting to spend time with the girls because your private your on your own alot...

What do other girls do to stop the loneliness of the industry from creeping in? I have always worked in very social team environments so it's a shock when most days unless I'm with a client I'm alone in my own thoughts.

How do you make friends in this industry when it's such a secret?

Xx
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I haven't contacted my family for a long time. But I will give them money for living. Don’t worry about me in Austraila . When they asked me what my job , I didn't know how to answer. So I chose to remain silent. I am afraid of being known by my family because I am not good at lying.

Every time my mother calls me,

I am scared, but I have to pretend to be calm 😢😔😢😔😢😔

So I always alone by myself,No social,

Explain that the heart is tired.
 
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It's amazing to hear that @AmeliaKennedy feels the loneliness. Irrespective of what you do for a living, if you are doing it right and well, it always feel lonely.

The trick I find is surround yourself with people whose at the top of their game that's not within your industry and hang around with them. You can choose to share or not share what you do, and just enjoy the company.

Remember it's always lonely at the top of the summit.
 
AlwaysUp said:
It's amazing to hear that @AmeliaKennedy feels the loneliness. Irrespective of what you do for a living, if you are doing it right and well, it always feel lonely.

The trick I find is surround yourself with people whose at the top of their game that's not within your industry and hang around with them. You can choose to share or not share what you do, and just enjoy the company.

Remember it's always lonely at the top of the summit.
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Rugbymermaid said:
I haven't contacted my family for a long time. But I will give them money for living. Don’t worry about me in Austraila . When they asked me what my job , I didn't know how to answer. So I chose to remain silent. I am afraid of being known by my family because I am not good at lying.

Every time my mother calls me,

I am scared, but I have to pretend to be calm 😢😔😢😔😢😔

So I always alone by myself,No social,

Explain that the heart is tired.
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If you ever feel alone or need to talk to someone I'm always here feel free to inbox me!

I know what you mean I can never tell my dad he would probably disown me.. sometimes when we lie it's to protect others who don't understand the industry.

Again feel free to reach out, know your not alone 😘😘
 
Looking back on this thread it's hard to read myself, it was a very lonely time when I first became private a complete change from my previous career where I was around people all day everyday. I feel completely different now! The girls are lovely, there is so many social/support groups out there, I go for walks or to the gym I don't just sit around and when I do... I really enjoy my own company!!!

Thank you to everyone who took the time to show support and comment 😘😘😘😘
 
AmeliaKennedy said:
Looking back on this thread it's hard to read myself, it was a very lonely time when I first became private a complete change from my previous career where I was around people all day everyday. I feel completely different now! The girls are lovely, there is so many social/support groups out there, I go for walks or to the gym I don't just sit around and when I do... I really enjoy my own company!!!

Thank you to everyone who took the time to show support and comment 😘😘😘😘
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That’s great Amelia. Well done.
GD
 
Amelia. 😙
We are all your friends and IMO you are doing a gr8 job, It could not be easy to open the door to a stranger and be a happy person all day, we all have crappy days babe, rest assured you would not be alone as a private WL.
It could not be easy to sift through text messages to determine who gets to have an enjoyable time with you either, some people are not pleasant to deal with and I guess prospective clients all have there expectations

I could suggest that you get in touch with some other WL chick's and hit the town with them for fun at least once a fortnight and blow of some steam.
have some drinks, let some guy's have a crack at chatting you up for fun, and simply enjoy yourself

Advice from The Frenchman
Enjoy your life Babe, your beautiful and a man magnet

😘
 
Thank You Amelia.
I have much respect for you lady's and what you do.
Although it's an expensive hobby of mine I enjoy the sex and live to meet lady's and have a good time

I just hope the other guy's in this chat room are the same? I guess we all have different desire's and you girls assist with our needs I guess mostof the time.
One thing I know for sure,
The extra's really wound our wallets. 😙
 
No Idea .. would you consider yurself a " typical French guy " ??

Clearly we'll never meet , so you might be worse than what it seems here , but I reckon Amelia .. and all the other private survivors out there .. has made her own life as good as it is DESPITE people like you .. certainly not BECAUSE of you ..

laughable that you should call her a friend and them slam her for wounding your wallet . I respectfully suggest you have little to NONE actual respect for WL , which is why your happy to tell her how to get her life together and then describe her as your sex hobby ..

By typical , I mean ARROGANT. But, again , just , my opinion.
 
Promassuer63 said:
No Idea .. would you consider yurself a " typical French guy " ??

Clearly we'll never meet , so you might be worse than what it seems here , but I reckon Amelia .. and all the other private survivors out there .. has made her own life as good as it is DESPITE people like you .. certainly not BECAUSE of you ..

laughable that you should call her a friend and them slam her for wounding your wallet . I respectfully suggest you have little to NONE actual respect for WL , which is why your happy to tell her how to get her life together and then describe her as your sex hobby ..

By typical , I mean ARROGANT. But, again , just , my opinion.
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Based on other posts. I concur 😉
 
Promassuer63 said:
No Idea .. would you consider yurself a " typical French guy " ??

Clearly we'll never meet , so you might be worse than what it seems here , but I reckon Amelia .. and all the other private survivors out there .. has made her own life as good as it is DESPITE people like you .. certainly not BECAUSE of you ..

laughable that you should call her a friend and them slam her for wounding your wallet . I respectfully suggest you have little to NONE actual respect for WL , which is why your happy to tell her how to get her life together and then describe her as your sex hobby ..

By typical , I mean ARROGANT. But, again , just , my opinion.
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Fair enough, we all have opinions like arsehole, No I was not slamming her or being dis respectful in anyway, you read it wrong dude.

however let's all get on with life and punting and whatever else we gotta do.
Cheers

If Offended Amelia, I say sorry from my heart babe 💘
 
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asianguy77 said:
Based on other posts. I concur 😉
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Promassuer63 said:
No Idea .. would you consider yurself a " typical French guy " ??

Clearly we'll never meet , so you might be worse than what it seems here , but I reckon Amelia .. and all the other private survivors out there .. has made her own life as good as it is DESPITE people like you .. certainly not BECAUSE of you ..

laughable that you should call her a friend and them slam her for wounding your wallet . I respectfully suggest you have little to NONE actual respect for WL , which is why your happy to tell her how to get her life together and then describe her as your sex hobby ..

By typical , I mean ARROGANT. But, again , just , my opinion.
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HI Guys
I did post an apology to Amelia and this has been removed.
Looks like you all have an opinion so in future I will be more careful with the way I say stuff.

So let's all get on with life and punting and whatever else we gotta do.


so once again If Offended Amelia, I say sorry from my heart babe 💘
 
Amelia
I will visit one day soon for a coffee and to say Hi I will bring you a gift of some type.
and also show you that I'm actually a French Gentleman 💘
 
AmeliaKennedy said:
If you ever feel alone or need to talk to someone I'm always here feel free to inbox me!

I know what you mean I can never tell my dad he would probably disown me.. sometimes when we lie it's to protect others who don't understand the industry.

Again feel free to reach out, know your not alone 😘😘
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☺️Thank you 😊 honey 🍯
 
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