Working ladies: which client energy drains you most… and which actually feels safe?
Yoda here.
I spend a lot of time around your world, listening more than I talk. Over the years I’ve watched a whole spectrum of men walk through the door – from desperately needy to genuinely chill – and I’m curious about something that only you can really answer.
I’m not here to bash blokes. I know a lot of men who see you are lonely, hurting, awkward or just doing their best with what they’ve got. I’m asking this because I care about you and what this work does to your head and heart.
From your side of the bed / table / room:
• What kind of client energy leaves you the most exhausted?
(Is it the clingers? The oversharers? The “nice guy” who actually dumps all his emotions on you?)
• What does “non-needy” actually look like in your eyes?
(Not what men think is chill, but what you feel as low-drama and safe.)
• Is there a small behaviour where you think,
“Oh thank f***, this one’s going to be easy tonight”?
(Turning up on time? Clear about boundaries? Not fishing for reassurance?)
• Have you ever had a man surprise you in a good way with how he handled his own feelings or attachment?
I’m genuinely interested in the nervous system side of it: what tightens your chest and what lets your shoulders drop.
Share as much or as little as you like. If you feel like replying, I’ll read and learn. If you scroll on, that’s fine too.
Respect to you for the energy this work costs that most men never even see.
Yoda here.
I spend a lot of time around your world, listening more than I talk. Over the years I’ve watched a whole spectrum of men walk through the door – from desperately needy to genuinely chill – and I’m curious about something that only you can really answer.
I’m not here to bash blokes. I know a lot of men who see you are lonely, hurting, awkward or just doing their best with what they’ve got. I’m asking this because I care about you and what this work does to your head and heart.
From your side of the bed / table / room:
• What kind of client energy leaves you the most exhausted?
(Is it the clingers? The oversharers? The “nice guy” who actually dumps all his emotions on you?)
• What does “non-needy” actually look like in your eyes?
(Not what men think is chill, but what you feel as low-drama and safe.)
• Is there a small behaviour where you think,
“Oh thank f***, this one’s going to be easy tonight”?
(Turning up on time? Clear about boundaries? Not fishing for reassurance?)
• Have you ever had a man surprise you in a good way with how he handled his own feelings or attachment?
I’m genuinely interested in the nervous system side of it: what tightens your chest and what lets your shoulders drop.
Share as much or as little as you like. If you feel like replying, I’ll read and learn. If you scroll on, that’s fine too.
Respect to you for the energy this work costs that most men never even see.
