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How to prepare my partner to anal sex?

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Hello,
my gf is beautiful making love with me, BUT, she is not agree to make anal sex. Can you share you experienca how to prepare partner for anal sex? Thanks a lot in advance.
 
If SHE is not yet ready...or not comfortable to go there... then don't try to take her there.

The best way to lose a Girl is to force her to go where she does not want to go.
 
I agree with SirStephan, you have to wait until she's comfortable about it. When it first happened for me my GF made the first move, and it was just one of those spontaneous things.

Be patient and best of luck
 
its going to take time and lube ....... slow and gentle

dont expect to be going at it in 1 night, it could take months, just definately as SirStefan said dont force anything (it could end up tearing and very painful for her)
 
Slow and steady wins the race. When caressing her, brush pass her bottom and gently stroke it. Lightly touch it with a finger but do not penetrate. If she does not complain have some lubricate handy for your finger to explore and maybe allowed to enter. Of course saliva is more at hand.

Full penetration, the next step with a penis is large leap into the unknown and she must agree because it will give her pain if she is not relaxed and willing at the time

I believe even if she does not allow you ever to anal sex you should be happy with what you are allowed to caress, touch. kiss and enjoy
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OK, thank a lot for everybody who shared his opinion.
I will take into consideration yous recommendations.
 
By the way, will any anal lube with benzocaine help us doing anal sex?
I found an gel like this one Link is broken,so has been removed
This gel contains benzocaine. Is it safe chamical substance? Any allergy, irritation etc? Is any information about benzocaine?
 
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try to start slowly with her and use ky jelly

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the only way to make your girl friend ready for anal sex

"make her calm, start your session with a long 4play, apply lubs on your penis and on her anus. start pushing your penis along your kisses and rubing her boobs"

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If you try it before the girl is ready, I cant see it going well.
I remember my first time was awful
However cut to a few years later when I was feeling a little for adventurous, with a guy I loved and trusted, and boom.... orgasm city.
Like everyone says, lube is a must.
Take it slow, ease into it (sometimes it helps to prep with a finger or small dildo) and it is amazing for all...
 
Hello,
It's good to see you once again the answer for you question is you just make her to feel so attractive...



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Hi,

Have patience. Talk with your GF and try to convince her, explain your feelings.
Don't apply pressure on her. Every thing will be fine.

Thanks.


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There's an old saying, "What is sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander." This meshes well with the Golden Rule, or ethic of reciprocity, which is a key moral principle in many religions and philosophies, and is often stated as "Do unto others as you wish to be done for you", or conversely, "Don't do unto others what you would not wish to be done to you." I agree with panders
 
Personally, for me it was the size/shape of the penis.

With my ex I did it once and that happened because I trusted him to listen to me during the act and also plenty of lube - we used a brilliant one that he got from Magenta, Perth, unfortunately I don't remember the name. It was great and wonderful feeling once his penis had got past that ridge, (not sure what the biological name for it is).

However I tried again with a client whom had I known for sometime and although he was gentle, I found him 'too big' and didn't enjoy the experience.

So anal is a no-no for me.

My question is why do a majority of men say no to it and then expect it from their partners? Maybe a new thread on that some day, somewhere...lol!
 
mmmm...i would luv to try it myself...but i am a little on the larger side and I think girls get scared to try... :-(
 
I'm with Panders too! Maybe once she sees you enjoy it she will want to try it!
 
Relaxation is the key, she has to be completely relaxed... The main reason for this is because having a penis up your bum feels like... Excuse this, but like your taking a sh*t. Just thought I'd get that straight. Also for a woman to take your penis, she needs to push out like she's taking a sh*t.... This makes most women nervous and embarrassed.

Take it slow, use lots of lubricant - oil based can be good as it won't dry up as quickly, don't use oil based if your using a condom. Use your fingers, respect her limits, if she's in pain STOP. I suggest a butt plug too...
 
not that this helps with your question, my partner and I have been working up to anal for years and are having fun in the process. My partner was not interested until we started but now she loves being fingered or a small vibrator used and goes right off and orgasims long and hard.
she still is concerned about full anal and can't say why but as they say its the journy not the destination that is memorable.
 
Hmm,
No one has really talked about how to actually "Prepare" for anal sex.
How do you clear out the rectum or get rid of the feces/stool/shit & the "Smell" up the hole.
Do all you other guys just wear a peg on your nose for the smell & do it in the dark so you cant see the brown bits on your dk?.
My partner wants it all the time and it takes a while to loosen her anal sphincter up.
We use lots of Ky or baby oil, so I can enter but I don't like doing it because of the Yuk factor.
Scented baby oil does wonders for the smell but "How" do you prepare or clean the passage out, so it's clean. Or don't people prepare,and just do it.

How do you WL's get ready for it ? & would you give head after.
 
In my experience, you need to make sure you do not do it straight after you had a meal because if this is the first time she is doing it, it will feel funny and something unpleasant might happen.

Also, it helps if both of you are very relax at the time and i found that Pjur numbing anal cream is actually quite helpful for first timers =

Hope that helps..
 
My last g/f LOVED anal. No drama whatsoever. Probably loved it more than vaginal sex. Plenty of lube and be gentle is the way.....she adored it and always orgasmed several times.

However, my last several prior g/f's would not touch anal with a bargepole. Or my pole.

If your lady has it in her head that she is not up for it, then it is not going to happen. End of story.

Can honestly say that I would not like several inches of man meat up my back passage thank you very much. Count me out.
 
well .... lots of post but no real answer to the Q asked ..... should the arse be flushed out .... my partner would love if i gave him anal but i just cant get pass the smell ... eww =(..... so will a flush out work ???
 
Yep "Eww ! ". although the smell can be masked very successfully buy using lots of Johnston's Baby Oil.
I saw doco on Norma Jean where her maid, nurse or whatever, would flush out Marilyn Monroe's bum hole with, what looked like, a kitchen funnel attached to a long rubber hose & a jug of water.
So anyway, I did try it on my lady, once, over a laundry sink. LOL, LOL and it was a frkn disaster & a frkn nightmare.
Anyhow, I'll never try that again.
One day, my lady had to have a Colononoscapy to check for polyps and the doctor gave her this laxative to mix with a bucket of water and to drink it, without food, over the preceding 24 hours.
It cleaned her really well & we took advantage of it that when she got back home from the doctor.
And so, since no one can answer my question, I guess I already have the answer.
The best way to get ready for anal sex is if you use a 24 hour medical, colon cleanse, to flush out all the fecal matter.
 
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