How many me too's ladies?

[mrys]

It seems that every day there is a politician, a celebrity, a sports coach, a priest, a teacher etc etc that's been called out for engaging in inappropriate and unwanted sexual advances with a woman/girl. Given that the ladies on TS would represent a good cross section of your gender how many of you have experienced unwanted attention, been made to feel uncomfortable, or felt unsafe with people that should have been trustworthy?

 

[Nina Stone]

It seems that every day there is a politician, a celebrity, a sports coach, a priest, a teacher etc etc that's been called out for engaging in inappropriate and unwanted sexual advances with a woman/girl. Given that the ladies on TS would represent a good cross section of your gender how many of you have experienced unwanted attention, been made to feel uncomfortable, or felt unsafe with people that should have been trustworthy?

I probably wouldn’t be able to count how many I’ve experienced in my life. There are that many. And most of them, as you can probably assume, were people close to me in some form in my life. You will not meet one woman without a story to tell. Not one.

 

[Mod7]

Interesting, my wife and I talked about this recently. Sure she had been approached by workmates many years ago but in those days it eas called flirting, but nothing physical, or since. I on the other hand eas molested by my best friends uncle whdn I was about 11. So was he at the same time. My friend told me not to yell anyone because it eas our secret and not bad. In hindsight he was groomed to seek out boys like me. There was never any rape, just oral on me. Am I ok? Yes. Am I bi, no.

 

[Nina Stone]

Interesting, my wife and I talked about this recently. Sure she had been approached by workmates many years ago but in those days it eas called flirting, but nothing physical, or since. I on the other hand eas molested by my best friends uncle whdn I was about 11. So was he at the same time. My friend told me not to yell anyone because it eas our secret and not bad. In hindsight he was groomed to seek out boys like me. There was never any rape, just oral on me. Am I ok? Yes. Am I bi, no.

Thank you for sharing your experience with us here in this space. Sending love and light to you and all survivors

 

[Mod7]

Thank you for sharing your experience with us here in this space. Sending love and light to you and all survivors

Poor typing , on phone, no glasses lol and no I dont have PTSD or any ongoing issues. Sometimes (as a victim) I think professionals search for a trauma to explain mental illness. I have seen that in my own family and think thats the easy way out, then prescribe drugs and job done.

 

[mrys]

I probably wouldn’t be able to count how many I’ve experienced in my life. There are that many. And most of them, as you can probably assume, were people close to me in some form in my life. You will not meet one woman without a story to tell. Not one.

How sad is that and what an indictment on my gender. I'm so sorry.

 

[mrys]

Poor typing , on phone, no glasses lol and no I dont have PTSD or any ongoing issues. Sometimes (as a victim) I think professionals search for a trauma to explain mental illness. I have seen that in my own family and think thats the easy way out, then prescribe drugs and job done.

Thanks for sharing mate. So sad a young you had to experience that, all power to you for not letting it derail a full and happy life.

 

[Mod7]

Thanks for sharing mate. So sad a young you had to experience that, all power to you for not letting it derail a full and happy life.

Thanks, end of story. The only points I am making are that it just isnt women (although I accept it would be happening a lot more), and not everyone is traumatised for life. Either way it is completely unacceptable.

 

[Nina Stone]

Thanks, end of story. The only points I am making are that it just isnt women (although I accept it would be happening a lot more), and not everyone is traumatised for life. Either way it is completely unacceptable.

Very true. The fact is that predators are everywhere, waiting to prey on their victims - who, as you have highlighted, can be anyone: irrespective of gender.

I think it’s also worth mentioning that predators themselves can be either gender too. Eg. My birth mother attempted to sell me into a child pedo ring when I was around 3-4yo.

Not only a person close to me whose role in life was to love and protect, but a woman no less. Like you have also said, not everyone is traumatised for life, but I know that experiences like these change the way we look at the world and at people.

Trust is difficult to give readily, and being suspicious of people in authoritive roles is also difficult to shake. But otherwise I suppose I lead as normal a life as anyone else. I certainly shy away from certain types of people and certain situations, but mostly I just want to live a peaceful life, regardless of my past traumatic experiences

 

[happytimes]

Very true. The fact is that predators are everywhere, waiting to prey on their victims - who, as you have highlighted, can be anyone: irrespective of gender.

I think it’s also worth mentioning that predators themselves can be either gender too. Eg. My birth mother attempted to sell me into a child pedo ring when I was around 3-4yo.

Not only a person close to me whose role in life was to love and protect, but a woman no less. Like you have also said, not everyone is traumatised for life, but I know that experiences like these change the way we look at the world and at people.

Trust is difficult to give readily, and being suspicious of people in authoritive roles is also difficult to shake. But otherwise I suppose I lead as normal a life as anyone else. I certainly shy away from certain types of people and certain situations, but mostly I just want to live a peaceful life, regardless of my past traumatic experiences

That’s a hectic story and I’m so glad your ok. Cause you never really know anyone’s real intentions. People in authority are usually the worst ( not all ). I know that has happened in my life from young age. Could say so much more but don’t want to.

 

[AmeliaKennedy]

Yep! Mainly higher up male bosses in my previous career, interestingly alot of them including the CEO were let go all at once! They were the 'mens club' and all acted the exact same way everyone knew about it and commented on it but because they were all so high up they believed they were unstoppable I am not sure what happened for their bubble to burst but it was all kept top secret & they all got huge payments when they were let go maybe so that no scenes were caused. One was on paid leave pending investigation for two years.

 

[Mod7]

Very true. The fact is that predators are everywhere, waiting to prey on their victims - who, as you have highlighted, can be anyone: irrespective of gender.

I think it’s also worth mentioning that predators themselves can be either gender too. Eg. My birth mother attempted to sell me into a child pedo ring when I was around 3-4yo.

Not only a person close to me whose role in life was to love and protect, but a woman no less. Like you have also said, not everyone is traumatised for life, but I know that experiences like these change the way we look at the world and at people.

Trust is difficult to give readily, and being suspicious of people in authoritive roles is also difficult to shake. But otherwise I suppose I lead as normal a life as anyone else. I certainly shy away from certain types of people and certain situations, but mostly I just want to live a peaceful life, regardless of my past traumatic experiences

What a terrible story. I hope you have put most of this behind you .

 

[Nina Stone]

That’s a hectic story and I’m so glad you’re ok. Cause you never really know anyone’s real intentions. People in authority are usually the worst ( not all ). I know that has happened in my life from young age. Could say so much more but don’t want to.

Thank you for sharing your story also and I would like to also tag @Westozman here too.

I feel that it’s an important part of the healing process to share, so we may bring light to this topic as a way to remove shame, and also to perhaps help others to stay vigilant so they may not encounter a situation like this.

However small a snippet of one’s story it might be, sharing is so important for this. Thank you to everyone who has contributed and shared here. That requires so much strength and courage