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How long did you think about becoming a Working Lady?

Dez

Dez

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How long did you spend thinking about becoming a W/L before you decided to act on that?
Did you know for a while that you wanted to get into the industry or was it more spontaneous than that?
Was it a well thought out/researched venture or a decision made on a whim?
How much planning goes into your work or do you just "wing" it?
 
Most of the ladies who come in for the interviews that have never worked before are here because
1. they are in financial difficulties (either they have lost jobs / got divorced /
have had partners leave them with big debts)
2. they are travelling around the world & this is a great way to get good money fast & keep on travelling.
3. they are studying at TAFE or University and want to not have a HECS debt...
4. WHEN THEY ARE YOUNG, they think it is a great way to make big money just by having sex...
5. they think its the fastest way to get themselves a nest egg...
 
Tania Desire said:
How long did you spend thinking about becoming a W/L before you decided to act on that?
Did you know for a while that you wanted to get into the industry or was it more spontaneous than that?
Was it a well thought out/researched venture or a decision made on a whim?
How much planning goes into your work or do you just "wing" it?
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Hey Tania :)

How long did you spend thinking about becoming a W/L before you decided to act on that?
I had always been curious about the sex industry, even when I was in high school and I started seriously considering it once I had moved out of home for about a couple of months before I did anything about it! The reason I wanted to get into the industry wasn't necessarily because of money or uni, but because I really enjoy sex and I enjoy pleasuring people. I still work a couple of shifts at a straight job and I am completing my uni degree so I also see working at Langtrees as a bit of fun as well as work!

Did you know for a while that you wanted to get into the industry or was it more spontaneous than that?
Yes, I had always thought about doing it but I was very insecure about myself and my body as well as living at home still.

Was it a well thought out/researched venture or a decision made on a whim?
Yes, before I got into the industry I did some research:
  • I searched what support services there were for sex workers in Perth (such as magenta)
  • I had a look at other working lady profiles to get an idea of what service/s I wanted to provide
  • I researched all the different parlours there were in Perth to get an idea of where I wanted to work (Esquire in Perth was the first and only other parlour that I have worked at so far, but Langtrees has definitely been the best!)
Once I had made my decision and I called up the parlour and they invited me to come down and have a look. After that I decided to go ahead and after my first shift I have never looked back! :) Luckily for me one of the lovely ladies that showed me the ropes (she taught me some of the most valuable things I know about the industry!) and made me feel very comfortable on my first night, although I didn't get a booking that night it helped me ease into it and I knew I had made the right decision.

How much planning goes into your work or do you just "wing" it?
I plan quite a bit before any decision I make, for example before I moved out of home or before I decided what I wanted to study at University. Although sometimes I can be very spontaneous especially when it comes to travelling hehe!

Hope this gives some insight but this is my own personal experience
 
Honestly.........a whim combined with curiosity and an adventurous nature for the unknown........... ;)

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Most of us are lured by the $.....the glamour of it all... mainly to put ourselves in a better financial position to better ones life. :mooning:
The lure of the almighty $ can hinder some of us about finding what else we can do as a career.....not that a career in the sex industry is bad... but sooner
rather than later a new path must be taken.
A lot of the longer lasting WLs have built themselves a nice wee nest egg with property, bank accounts etc, they set themselves up for a rainy day. They take courses, have found a different way of making ends met. Some
will always hang in there, after achieving all the above because they love the
sex industry. :cool::cool:
 
I had thought about it before but didn't go out and really seek information about it... then when my other job got quiet i started to think about it some more... So i happened across this forum and found an email address and asked for info...
before i knew it DD was calling me to come in
I left it to chance when i walked in.. i thought if they take me i will give it a go... they did so so did i..
did my first shift and loved it...
coming up to the three week anniversary now and still love it...

and yes hopefully it pays off the mortgage a little faster so i can do things my own way and not have to rely on anyone else to get where i want to go.
 
I was always curious about it and it was a way of making quick money when I needed it.

Maybe it was something I always wanted to do and it was satisfying to me to be wanted and desired by men. That you learn quickly disappears after they get what they want and tell you to leave.

For me, curiosity gave way to need and so I did it. I knew I'd crossed a line and could never go back once I did it. I saw and experienced things that changed me forever.

ill admit it was fun at first with all the attention and the money, but what I was doing became quickly repetitive and boring.

A long shift and a 5 or a 6th customer will quickly make you realise that it's a tiring and an emotionally involved job to attend to someone's sexual desires and get them off. It's very satisfying when you give a customer the relief he needs but for the most part its tiring to have to play a role and a fantasy that your customer has paid for over and over again every night.

If you can mentally distance yourself got the work, escorting is very lucrative. But if you let your guard down, it can and will affect you.

Sex work involves surrendering yourself physically to a customer who can get out of control and be unpredictable. You physically vulnerable and it can be nerve wracking.

I don't think anyone can distance themselves from the onslaught of emotions you face when you're working and eventually, if you're not feeling the best, a customer who repeatedly calls u a slut will get to you.

I started escorting and just kept doing it being a little lost. I found a way to keep doing the impossible by numbing myself. Everyone I know does and not everyone I'll admit it but that's just part of the industry.

The raw reality of sex work is to have to live out a custiner's fantasy over and over again. It's physically an emotionally draining to give your body to strangers and submit yourself to someone's desires and eventually it creeps into your personal life

Sex work is not for anyone that can't distance themselves from what they do.
 
SiennaSinn said:
I was always curious about it and it was a way of making quick money when I needed it.

Maybe it was something I always wanted to do and it was satisfying to me to be wanted and desired by men. That you learn quickly disappears after they get what they want and tell you to leave.

For me, curiosity gave way to need and so I did it. I knew I'd crossed a line and could never go back once I did it. I saw and experienced things that changed me forever.

ill admit it was fun at first with all the attention and the money, but what I was doing became quickly repetitive and boring.

A long shift and a 5 or a 6th customer will quickly make you realise that it's a tiring and an emotionally involved job to attend to someone's sexual desires and get them off. It's very satisfying when you give a customer the relief he needs but for the most part its tiring to have to play a role and a fantasy that your customer has paid for over and over again every night.

If you can mentally distance yourself got the work, escorting is very lucrative. But if you let your guard down, it can and will affect you.

Sex work involves surrendering yourself physically to a customer who can get out of control and be unpredictable. You physically vulnerable and it can be nerve wracking.

I don't think anyone can distance themselves from the onslaught of emotions you face when you're working and eventually, if you're not feeling the best, a customer who repeatedly calls u a slut will get to you.

I started escorting and just kept doing it being a little lost. I found a way to keep doing the impossible by numbing myself. Everyone I know does and not everyone I'll admit it but that's just part of the industry.

The raw reality of sex work is to have to live out a custiner's fantasy over and over again. It's physically an emotionally draining to give your body to strangers and submit yourself to someone's desires and eventually it creeps into your personal life

Sex work is not for anyone that can't distance themselves from what they do.
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Thanks for the insight. My girlfriend works in the industry, so it is good to hear your perspective. My girlfriend has said she does have to emotionally distance herself to deal with most clients, although there are some that treat her very well. Some of her longer bookings can be particularly demanding. However, she is an amazing woman that works very hard to secure her future and that of her family.
 
For me it was a spontaneous decision. An opportunity came up and was a unpleasant part of life and needed to earn money quick. It was an Adelaide cup weekend and found I enjoyed it. So over the years have been a lady of the night. Retired a few times & always seem to come back to this.
I enjoy pleasing and like my sex. I have some amazing clients many I have built a working relationship over the years.
 
Dez said:
How long did you spend thinking about becoming a W/L before you decided to act on that?
Did you know for a while that you wanted to get into the industry or was it more spontaneous than that?
Was it a well thought out/researched venture or a decision made on a whim?
How much planning goes into your work or do you just "wing" it?
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I honestly never expected Id be here and love my job so much. I applied for Langtrees ( my first and only brothel ;) ) after things went south with a relationship. I did my research and had my mind set on Langtrees. Honestly was very scared as i wasnt sure if i was "pretty" enough and all of that silly paranoia. But i was welcomed in with open arms.
Then even after that initial issue was sorted, I loved the job so much that I stayed and started doing more DOM work here too. Its been an amazing time and im so thankful ive had the opportunity to put my kink experience to good use.
 
I was a porn addict from about 11 years old (during the dial-up days) and from around age 13-14 I realized I wanted to be either a porn star or a Dominatrix. I got my chance to become A Domme when I was 19, becoming the live in slave to a Mistress in Sydney. Initially I was playing the alpha sub within her sessions, then began to Co-Domme with her, by some time during my twentieth year I conducted my first solo Domme scene.
At first I was just working in the industry over the summers as I was also involved in the ski industry but from around age 25 I began working in the adult industry full time.
So I guess to answer the initial question, I was thinking about being a sex worker since early teen years however at that stage (considering I grew up in a conservative rural area, as a guy) I thought the idea of becoming a Dominatrix was more of a fantasy, some kind of unachievable goal, definitely not something you could ask your careers adviser about. When the opportunity came up however, there was no hesitation , I jumped straight in and feel that it was one of the best decisions in my life....
 
DDxoxo said:
Most of the ladies who come in for the interviews that have never worked before are here because
1. they are in financial difficulties (either they have lost jobs / got divorced /
have had partners leave them with big debts)
2. they are travelling around the world & this is a great way to get good money fast & keep on travelling.
3. they are studying at TAFE or University and want to not have a HECS debt...
4. WHEN THEY ARE YOUNG, they think it is a great way to make big money just by having sex...
5. they think its the fastest way to get themselves a nest egg...
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Very true
Its pretty much always about money for all of the above and more but often with single Mum,s its the flexibility and the amount they can earn in less time than the perceived "normal" jobs allowing them to spend more quality time with their kids and having the funds to provide some little extra's for their family and put funds away for future education and unexpected emergencies.
 
I'd always had a fascination with the industry, I read as many books as I could get my hands on back in my teenage years, but always thought that I wouldn't be quite the right fit. In the end I got invited to work on a Friday by a friend, and on a crazy whim said yes! After a year of working a full time "day job" and part timing on weekends I decided to follow my happiness and go full time in the industry. I couldn't be happier with my decision to transition full time, I love the girls and clients I get to meet, and every day is full of surprises and adventure!
 
How long did you spend thinking about becoming a W/L before you decided to act on that?
:oops::D My first ever ‘real paying’ job was waitressing in Kings Cross, Sydney (Just before lock out laws were enforced), as the years went by; I went from waitress to topless waitress to pole dancer (fitness), to stripper to sex worker. At the moment I alternative between stripper/waitress jobs for bucks/birthdays/divorce parties etc and sex-work life.

Did you know for a while that you wanted to get into the industry or was it more spontaneous than that?
It’s been an idea in my head all my life.
The freedom is what attracted me the most.
Also curiosity for sex/sex industry itself.
— only in mid 2018, I came across the definition of hypersexuality, as a symptom of mania with bipolar disorder. And since then, a lot of things started making more sense to me, in terms of who I am/why I do the things I do/the constant mood swings lol *facepalm

Was it a well thought out/researched venture or a decision made on a whim?
Just jumped straight into it, HAHAHAHHAHA.
Waitressing// I tried a few clubs, they were good. I wasn’t a fan of agencies because you have to constantly go to different venues, wasn’t my thing.
Stripping// did work for a few clubs. nothing bad to say about any of them. They treated me well. But can’t go into much detail right now.
Prostitution// tried many brothels in Sydney; not my scene. Central coast to me seems to be a mini-Sydney scene. South coast, I have nothing bad to say about it. // I’ve done private-independent escorting on my own. I liked the freedom, however, i can be quite erratic with time; hence why I like the authority of management.
The current place I work at right now has been quite accommodating to me in terms of what I need health wise, especially because I don’t feel forced or pressured; having the freedom on my terms that align with their needs as a business works out. :)

How much planning goes into your work or do you just "wing" it?
hahahhahahahaha... where do I even begin....
I am in between “go all out” or “just wing it”
lol, yes both extremes #bipolar for sure :blackeye::bored:
- I spend at least an hour or two just for mental preparation... if I’m not in the right mindset to work— I might as well not work at all, it’s a recipe for disaster...
- I mentally prepare and/or put aside outfits for x-amount of night’s I’m working for + back ups
- takes me two to three hours getting physically ready (make up etc etc), eg. wait for hair to dry, get distracted by article on the internet, apply primer, watch video to wait for primer to set, get distracted again by some post on internet or another, etc etc.
- then there are some nights, I can just get ready within half an hour, then get up and go start
 
Anyone else inspired by Pretty Woman?? Such a cliche but I've been curious and thought about sex work on and off ever since seeing that movie as a kid. I seriously considered it a couple of years ago when I found out there were two brothels in close proximity to each other and to my regular workplace. I chickened out at the time because I wasn't confident enough and it was just too close to work. Fast forward to last year when I had a complete life change and decide to just go for it. I advertised, got my first clients, and it was easy. I also worked in brothels to supplement my private work but I'm now completely independent. There's no way I could've done this job when I was younger, I'm a late starter to the industry age-wise and I think it's been to my advantage. I've learnt an enormous amount, not just the practicalities of health, services, marketing etc, but about myself. In just one short year my life has changed massively and it's I've grown and become more self-confident than I've ever been.
 
It didn't take long at all. Honestly, I needed the money. I was, and still am, an absolute tart, so I found it quite easy to be a WL. I used to be super secretive about the job however nowadays, I openly admit my vocation. Love the shock factor of people's reactions for I certainly don't even trigger the inkling of doing that kind of work! All who know me knows what I mean ;) :cool:
 
I thought bout the idea for years but the 6 months before hand was a big massive I need to do something then the month lead up was the working of it all to happen then it just happened one day and I did it. There was a bit of research that went into but I did not know where to go til I was told and then I came out & a year & half later I’m still here. Every night or day I come out there is a lot of planning that goes into the mix with outfits, make up, hair & what jewellery goes with what for the night/day.

It took me a while to get my head around the fact a plan I’ve had in my head for years has come to life but I’ve never been happier
 
When i started in the industry. I can never forget this Brazilian older lady probably on her late 50's. With very strong accent. She was very Intelligent and wise. Then later she showed me. She was actually a Lawyer. The very reason she's in the business because she's BORED and like a bit of male attention haha. Sometimes i realize how so lucky i am to learn and be friend to few handful gem human i've meet here. So much honest and purest heart around
 
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