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GeekGirl

Hi all,

I have had a few partners lately who have not orgasmed, is this common ? or am I doing something wrong ?

I just like to make sure my partners are happy and have enjoyed our encounters, but I am left feeling like I have not satisfied them.

hugs,

GG. xxx
 
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GeekGirl said:
Hi all,

I have had a few partners lately who have not orgasmed, is this common ? or am I doing something wrong ?

I just like to make sure my partners are happy and have enjoyed our encounters, but I am left feeling like I have not satisfied them.

hugs,

GG. xxx
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Dont worry about it when i have sex i use my pelvic muscles it stops me from cumming.I still very much enjoy the sex its just that sometimes its good to make it last longer so the woman im with enjoy's herself and she cums before me.When i do my pelvic muscle thing i find it hard to cum but its not adnormal,i think anyway.
So dont worry enjoy yourself im sure the men you are with enjoy themselves they will say if they havent.
 
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bigkev68

You may have to try some different sexual positions. Every sexual position I have tried feels great but depending on the women I am with, some I can cum in most positions but with others there is only 1 or 2 positions I can cum in. The 2 most reliable positions for me to cum in is the women flat on her stomach with her legs together and rear entry Vaginal it never fails as long as the women is not too much overwieght and Doggie is pretty reliable to and size is not such an issue with Doggie.
I don't know if how I am is normal but thats how it is for me, and the women that I can cum with in most positions are no more attractive than the others and don't do anything special that the others don't until now I have never really thought about it much.
Good luck.
 
antonov

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Not as young as I once was - and I don't always cum. Doesn't really bother me. The journey has always been much more fun than the arrival anyway!
 
Demon

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Cumming is not always ejaculating. It is the thrill of the sexual experience which does it for me. Cumming is a lovely side benefit.
 
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Mary Anne PA

Some times it takes longer than others for me.... I remember one time with an ex of mine we had sex for a little over 3 hours, I still enjoyed every minute of it and would have been happy even if I didn't cum.
 
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Imogen88

GeekGirl said:
Hi all,

I have had a few partners lately who have not orgasmed, is this common ? or am I doing something wrong ?

I just like to make sure my partners are happy and have enjoyed our encounters, but I am left feeling like I have not satisfied them.

hugs,

GG. xxx
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Drinking, taking drugs, being stressed or nervous can also prevent or delay them Cummings also..


Imogen xx
 
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tiffanydoll

maybe they masturbating too much before they cum to u it happens no reflection on u :)
 
happytimes

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what you see is wat you get and alot more
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Why do so many ladies think they don't satisfy a guy just because you don't cum?
I have been with some ladies for a couple of hours and have had a great time and so have they but i haven't cum, i still have really good sex and i get off on giving pleasure just as much as the lady does.

One paticular lady who used to be very popular and i never saw her when she worked at the agency, but met her for the first time at place i would rather not say, when i was introduced to her we just clicked, she said she had a booking soon but was running late, so she said to me if he doesnt turn up i will ring you.
As fete played she rang me and asked did i want to come over, i said yeah and took me about 15mins to get there which was about 1am. I said i would just stay for an hour as she had to get home to.

Paid her the money for an hour, had a shower and she set the clock for an hour. We talked for about 10mins and got into it, we had sex just about everywhere in the bedroom and the alarm went off and she just pushed it off the table, as the daylight was coming thru the window i finally cum and she said fuck its daylight, had a shower and we both left.

So sometimes if your both right into it and the lady has a hot as time as you, the time just flys by, but she didn't care about the time and just wanted to have some great sex and thats exactly what she did. Also she was determined she was going to make me cum which she did.
Though i could of gone home 2 hours earlier and still been as happy as what i was, so you don't have to make a guy cum to make him happy. Hey ....
 
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Thanks for pointing it out HT. It is not all about "cuming" and you can really have a great time enjoying the lady and the rest without "cuming". sex is so much more than that.
So don't worry GG.........there is soooooo much more to sex ;)
R.xxxxx
 
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Peter

It's not always just about cum, cum, cum the tenderness, caressing and just being with a woman is sometimes all we need. You'll know when you are going wrong the punters don't come back!
 
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Peter said:
It's not always just about cum, cum, cum the tenderness, caressing and just being with a woman is sometimes all we need. You'll know when you are going wrong the punters don't come back!
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Peter is correct on all counts........... :la::la::la:
 
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STEPHMAC

GeekGirl said:
Hi all,

I have had a few partners lately who have not orgasmed, is this common ? or am I doing something wrong ?

I just like to make sure my partners are happy and have enjoyed our encounters, but I am left feeling like I have not satisfied them.

hugs,

GG. xxx
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I couldn't with my ex-wife no matter how much I tried,I suppose I just didn't feel anything, couldn't even get an erection in the end. 'Miserable'
 
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Saige

Every man (like every woman)is different..I used to worry about that as well however I have learnt that some its not about the ejaculation or the orgasm...it is the act (yep when you find one hand on..cos they ussually love to spend alot of time pleasing you)...
 
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STEPHMAC

Saige said:
Every man (like every woman)is different..I used to worry about that as well however I have learnt that some its not about the ejaculation or the orgasm...it is the act (yep when you find one hand on..cos they ussually love to spend alot of time pleasing you)...
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If I have a same-sex encounter, I ejaculate quickly and the orgasm Is usually very intense so-much-so, that I become a little aggressive, won't allow the other person to touch me and end up lying there for a while to get over it.. With a woman It is, for me mainly about her femininity, enjoying and appreciating It.The ejaculation and orgasm is secondary and not that that important.
Thanks.
 
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Imogen88 said:
Drinking, taking drugs, being stressed or nervous can also prevent or delay them Cummings also..


Imogen xx
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I think as you get older the cum has less significance

Personally once I cum I no longer want sex give me a long foreplay any time
 
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JasRob

Maybe your partners are seems too tired? too drunk? there are certain times that whatever you do to your partner it seems that they won't be able to have orgasms especially when their tired.
 
hillsbi

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I've always had a problem reaching orgasm (yes, I know I need to relax etc.), but it doesn't mean I don't enjoy the experience.

Orgasm isn't the only enjoyable part of an encounter, and lack of it is not an indication that the partner has done anything wrong
 
Dionysus

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I have problems ejaculating when I'm wearing a condom. I think this is down to the fact that I don't use them with my wife, and then when I have sex with a WL I'm not used to the relative lack of sensation that comes with wearing a rubber. I'm tempted to try different types of condom and maybe start taking my own condoms along to the sessions with the WLs. Has anyone else found the same issue?
 
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Dionysus said:
I have problems ejaculating when I'm wearing a condom. I think this is down to the fact that I don't use them with my wife, and then when I have sex with a WL I'm not used to the relative lack of sensation that comes with wearing a rubber. I'm tempted to try different types of condom and maybe start taking my own condoms along to the sessions with the WLs. Has anyone else found the same issue?
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I have had the same problem, actually I've had problems ejaculating when I've been with ANYONE. I guess my hand knows best which buttons to push after 30 years of masturbation.

However, I recently noticed that when using medicinal aid, Viagra seems to make it easier for me to ejaculate. At the same time, Levitra (my GP was assisting me with evaluating what works best for me), while improving my erection, did not have the same positive effect on my ability to ejaculate.
 
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Lord Spikey

Dionysus said:
I have problems ejaculating when I'm wearing a condom. I think this is down to the fact that I don't use them with my wife, and then when I have sex with a WL I'm not used to the relative lack of sensation that comes with wearing a rubber. I'm tempted to try different types of condom and maybe start taking my own condoms along to the sessions with the WLs. Has anyone else found the same issue?
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Hey Dion....

Yeh, I am familiar with this problem. I am also lead to believe that guys who are cut may have reduced sensitivity over time and as we get older, a lot of time passes.
I recently found new condoms called ZERO. they are supposed to be the thinnest ones available. I opened one up to take a look and they are bloody thin. Haven't had an opportunity to try one yet, but I am looking for a lady to volunteer for the trial.

Any takers? It would a scientific trial to benefit all.

I would not even charge you. I offer this sacrifice of my time totally free of charge.

Just say the word
 
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Rochelle of Langtrees said:
Thanks for pointing it out HT. It is not all about "cuming" and you can really have a great time enjoying the lady and the rest without "cuming". sex is so much more than that.
So don't worry GG.........there is soooooo much more to sex ;)
R.xxxxx
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As I have'nt come in about 16yrs,to me it's all about getting the woman to cum...mmmm.that get's me off.:la:
 
Dionysus

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Spikey said:
Hey Dion....

Yeh, I am familiar with this problem. I am also lead to believe that guys who are cut may have reduced sensitivity over time and as we get older, a lot of time passes.
I recently found new condoms called ZERO. they are supposed to be the thinnest ones available. I opened one up to take a look and they are bloody thin. Haven't had an opportunity to try one yet, but I am looking for a lady to volunteer for the trial.

Any takers? It would a scientific trial to benefit all.

I would not even charge you. I offer this sacrifice of my time totally free of charge.

Just say the word
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I hope you get some takers for your medical trial. I'm going to put Zero on my shopping list and hope the next household shopping trip doesn't return a case of sugar-free Coca-Cola.
 
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Lord Spikey

Dionysus said:
I hope you get some takers for your medical trial. I'm going to put Zero on my shopping list and hope the next household shopping trip doesn't return a case of sugar-free Coca-Cola.
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Hey Dion....

I also noticed another thread about Zero condoms.

One reply was a recommendation about other super thin versions.
I think the thread was titled "Ansell Zero..."
 
BlueFire

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Some guys may not want to give the girl the satisfaction that they have cum. If she's lying there like a log, unresponsive, or maybe she's purposely trying to get you to come so she doesn't have to have intercourse, then the guy may intentionally not come because he's dissatisfied with her service.

My last asian girl was a bore in bed. It was like trying to turn on my grandma. I like the girl to come first, and most of the time she does. With this girl I spent time on foreplay, easing into intercourse, tried to have some conversation with her...when basically she just wanted to slam the condom on straight away. After a while she faked an orgasm, and asked me if I had come. I said no and she didn't believe me. She actually grabbed my dick and checked if cum was in the condom lol

Note to self: When the mama-san recommends a girl, she's probably the girl to avoid.
 
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Lord Spikey

Hey, Bluefire.

Good call. But that can work either way, depending whether you know the mamasan and she knows you and appreciates your repeated business.

If its your first time at an establishment, then that is exactly what could happen, but if you become a regular, then mama will be a great benefit.

See my recent post about 308 Canning Highway. I know exactly what you mean about trying to turn on your grandma. Wendy was a sight to behold, but the condom was on within minutes, the deed all done within about 20 minutes and she just seems to be waiting for my hour to be up. No further interest. No eye contact. No chitchat. Nothing.

I guess she was a one pop girl and I had had my one pop, so as far as she was concerned, she had done her job.

NEXT
 
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Miranda Fox

Hey GG,
It is not your fault that they did not cum. They might be very nervous, they might have taken some drugs, they might have had too much to drink. A number of factors stops a man from cumming.

Don't feel unsatisfied, you have tried your best I am sure.

Miranda Fox
 
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mwillem9

Why worry about making her cum? You're the one paying to receive the happy ending.
 
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