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Do you Tell ?

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Miranda Fox

Question for the Working Ladies

"Do you tell your friends, boyfriends, partners - what line of Work you do ?
or do you try and hide the fact that you work in the World's Oldest Profession ?"
 
Hi Miranda, I'm a 'bloke' who is NOT a sex worker, but i have had 3 relationships with 'working girls' two of them being live-in relationships and they all told me what they did and I respected them for their honesty....
I had one relationship with a Girl, who hid from me her part time involvement and she gained no respect when, by accident, I found out and she went into denial.
 
I dont offer Full Service, but my husband is fully aware of the services that I DO offer, and we have no secrets.
Ill tell him about problem clients, good clients, nice tippers etc, and wouldnt dream of offering services which would bother him.
I entered the industry after we started dating, and he has always been 100% supportive.
 
sexy_celeste said:
I dont offer Full Service, but my husband is fully aware of the services that I DO offer, and we have no secrets.
Ill tell him about problem clients, good clients, nice tippers etc, and wouldnt dream of offering services which would bother him.
I entered the industry after we started dating, and he has always been 100% supportive.
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Fantastic, well done, I like your style and committment.
 
Dear Miranda,

I am not a member of your profession, so my comments should be considered from my position of ignorance.

I personally feel that when your profession or social life contains activities that are "questioned or frowned upon" in general society, then prudence is required in secular and casual situations. However, once you enter into a relationship (friends are just another form of relationship) I tend to feel that if you cannot be honest about you are, all parts of you, then why would you want to be in a relationship with a person who is judgemental or close minded.

Also, when the specific about your work does involve the sharing of what is considered a very personal part of you, I feel that it respects your partner to share that with them. I recognise that this does run the risk of that person choosing not to start a relationship with you, but then that relationship would probably not have lasted and been horrible for the duration anyway. I couldn't imagine living every day with secrets and deception.

As I said before, this is just my opinion.

Love,
swingingstories
 
SexyCeleste, SirStefan and Swingingstories,

Thank you for your honest replies.
Especially Swingingstories, I hear what you are saying.

Over the last 3 years I visit a Book Shop.... My first time in the shop, I asked the lady behind the counter. "Do you have any books on working ladies?" she looked at me. Okay try again "Escorts, ladies of the night ?" She then said I am not sure sorry, but my husband would know, he will be back soon.

When he returned, asked the same question. He showed me an area with about six books to choose from. There I found one "Pros & Cons : A Working Girl's Guide to the World's Oldest Profession." by Colleen Dawn. 1998 She distils 25 years of "hands on" experience into a funny, shocking and above all, wise expose of the sex industry and the winners and losers who work in it and use it.
Then this year January, I entered into the Book Shop and to my surprise the male bookshop owner remembered me. He had put aside a book just for me.
The book is called "Red Velvet : Memoirs of a working girl " by Lisa Lou 2006.

Two great books and both published in Australia.

Look forward to my replies.
:)
 
I guess it is like anything - how much do you want people to know about you??? Personally I feel that within an intimate relationship it is important to be completely honest with your partner so in that aspect I see a tell all approach as necessary, your partner may not be ready to embark on that journey and deserves to have that choice....as far as 'other relationships' including friends it comes down to what you what your friends/family to know...
 
Hi Miranda,I am only speaking on my situation and others may have a different opinion.
I have been in 2 relationships where my g/friend has worked.
The first was a very open relationship where we did many things with different people, threesomes mfm,fmf, and foursomes and so on.

So the fact that she did work didn't really bother me as i am not a jealous person and she was always up front about it. If i was to find out thru different avenues i would of felt like i was deceived.

The second time my g/friend was an ex worker but she had made it clear to me from the start what she used to do.
To me being honest about anything in a relationship is very much important.
As if you find out your partner is lying to you about anything it breaks down that wall of trust.
Once that is broken i have found your feelings towards that person are never the same. So to answer your question i believe you have to tell your partner
or when it does come out you may find your partner not very forgiving.

Trust is one of the most important things in a relationship to me, if you don't have it i believe the relationship is bound to fail.

Having said all that the reasons behind our break ups were never over trust issues.Though that's another story all together so i will leave it at that.
Hope it gives you some info about what your looking for.
 
I agree any lady should be only judge on what sort of person that are not what their job is. I have met some sex workers who I would be proud to have them as my sister or wife.
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I having nothing to hide, most of my friends know of my profession (as I started young - someone actually rang my mother to tell her when I was 19 - niiice) and my family who matter know. I must say I do get off on dropping it in when I get asked my profession if applying for credit, I must be slightly demented, makes me giggle. Oh and speaking of giggle. I had a call today, asked for prices etc. And then asked if I do 'freebies' hehe I said ur kidding right? He was like, no. And I cracked up and wound the call up stating I have bills to pay just like him and he doesn't go into Kmart and ask for freebies does he? He said no he doesn't and our paths swiftly parted lol Can't wait to resign to lose the pesky phone calls! :-) xx
 
Ladies and Gents,
Thanks for your replies here.

My family and friends know what I do, even the bank knows. I agree with your comments to be Honest and have Respect.
At the moment I don't have a partner, but was curious what you all thought about my question.

When out and about having a day off enjoying the countryside, having a drink at a pub etc. Then a man starts talking to me and pops the Question "What do you do for a living ?" ...... I have replied "Well you know how mechanics service cars, I service men". Some just look at me, what, excuse me etc.
 
Must admit I loved your answer re: your job. Good on you. I for one find the industry fascinating. Have met some really nice ladies. Also some not so great. Just like life in general
 
Update......
Starting to get interesting my personal life that is..
A couple of men lately, are asking "What do I do for a living ?"
Does it really make a difference what I do for a living ? You want to get to know me as a person, don't you ?
Almost at the stage of telling them.
 
Hi Miranda, That's exactly right you are who you are no matter what you do for a living.
If someone judges you because your a worker and has a problem with that then i think you wouldn't get along with them to well.Most W/L's i have met and have seen them on a regular basic have been really d.t.e people and very genuine.
I would think you would be the same, though i haven't had the pleasure of meeting you yet..:occasion14
 
You ask the question y men ask what you do for a living me personally it gives a quick insight into what type of person you are and how mentally driven you are in life. I have had a lot of long term relationships in my time and the jobs that my gf have had have mimiced their personality and there lifestyle. I do now look for the stable, have a good job and among otherthings personality these might seem materialistic but they unfortunatly in MOST cases are a must for stability in a relationship. These are my views only and are not ment to cause upset it's just something I have learnt in my experience. As for telling your partner if you are serious about them the truth is really important, mayb not if you are trying to break the Ice on a first date but.
 
One. I do have a life apart from work.

A man I am meeting tomorrow for the first time, so shall wait and see....

Second man is serious, ringing me every day, as he is interstate. He is driving over to meet me Cup week. Ah the excitement is building up.
 
Manonfire,
Thank you and yes I am mentally driven. I do think alot, re personal life and my working life.
Date yesterday afternoon, asked what do you do for a living?
I told him and he said that his son had met a lady in the industry. So all was good there.

My friend rang from interstate this morning and I couldn't wait any longer. I told him and he thanked me for being honest.
So there you go, damm butterflies for nothing.

:)
 
Hi Miranda,
Tried to purchase those books you mentioned at Collins books, they didn't have them, shall keep shopping around, unless you know where i can purchase them
When I've finished them, I shall give them to a friend who works
 
Truth solves alot of things, glad it paid off for you and these men have open minds
p.s I'm not trying to personally attack your job choice, I would b a hypocrit if I was lol
 
Hi Golfball,
For the books, try here......Freecall 1800 132 100
Search online at www.bookfound.com

Other books are
On the Game by A.N. Bingley 1992 WA
Pros & Cons ...A Working Girl's Guide to the World's Oldest Profession by Colleen Dawn
1998 WA
Callgirl...Confessions of a Double Life by Jeannette Angell 2005 printed in Australia by Griffin Press.

Manonfire
Thank you :)
 
Miranda said:
Update......
Starting to get interesting my personal life that is..
A couple of men lately, are asking "What do I do for a living ?"
Does it really make a difference what I do for a living ? You want to get to know me as a person, don't you ?
Almost at the stage of telling them.
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I think it matters to woman more then man IMO.

I also think that the above question is more of a general chit chat, i think you will find it that they dont really care what you do ;)

Us guys are very simple creatures food+beer+lots of sex= happy man he he he he
 
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