Do you like it both ways?

Bluegrass9

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I believe I am not gay but after reading a number of books I maybe.
They start if a male enjoys seeing two ladies making love-the guy is gay.

I have been approached a number of times in my youth and by good looking healthy guys too but never took on their offer. One even offered to pay me but even the thought of good money could tempt me to explore what he had to offer.
I can see beauty in a healthy fit male, such as a boxer but I admire them as i do to a racehorse. And no, I have no intention have sex with a horse- not even a donkey.
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Fudd

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I believe I am not gay but after reading a number of books I maybe.
They start if a male enjoys seeing two ladies making love-the guy is gay.

.....huh?????.....are these "books" saying that if a guy enjoys watching 2 women making love....then he is gay?????.....I hope I've misunderstood this because, if true, then myself and just about the entire hetro male population on this planet would be considered gay....am confused here :).

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Bluegrass9

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Yes Fudd I am afraid you did read what you thought you had read. I agree the whole concept is crazy. I have been told if you are bisexual then you have double the fun.

I too am confused and wondered if anyone would agree with this statement.

So far we are both safe.
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frendoto

Funny you should mention that you were approached. I've been approached on a few occasions in a similar way but not by gay men. As a 19 year old, a young guy came up to me and flat out asked did I want to have sex with him and his girlfriend. Reflexively, I said no and he immediately walked away. I gave it no more thought until years later. Honestly. No more thought. My reaction now seems as strange to me as the young man's actions - and far less brave and imaginative.

Around the same time, I was approached by a different guy who asked if I wanted to have sex with his girlfriend. No preamble, just straight out asked (with what I'd say was a slight hostility). Again, I reflexively said no and gave it no more thought.

At least 3 times on boozy Saturday nights in pubs in Australia and UK, after a brief introduction and the crack of a joke or two, in my mid-20s, slightly older men have said "you can sleep with my wife" or "you can shag my wife". I always said "what?" and they always repeated it. I always walked away and gave it no more thought. My uncle also said this to me. They all said it in the same way and I sincerely believe this kind of thing is more common than many of us would guess.

If I were approached now in the same way, I would probably say yes to the offers made to me in my youth. Life is not too short but with the decisions I have made in my life, life is too boring not to say yes.

I am always wary of, even resistant to, people who would dictate the terms of other people's sexuality to them. So the books mentioned by Bluegrass9 don't make me question myself, they make me deeply suspicious of the authors. I am suspicious because not only do they do not embrace diversity (which is fine) but they disallow it (which is not fine). It makes me think they want everybody to be the way they (the authors) are. Not having read the books, my opinion isn't very valuable.

I remember reading quite recently that woman-to-man strap-on anal sex is on the rise. My last girlfriend was desperate to do this but again I declined. I would still decline.

Do I like it both ways? I don't know. I'm heterosexual despite myself. I like the idea of liking it both ways. But in reality I've never found myself sexually attracted to a man.

If you think you might like it, give it a go.
 
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seteh

I think that most straight guys would enjoy watching 2 girls make out, that’s why you have that in lots of porn movies...

Gay guys are attracted to other guys' sex organs, to put it bluntly, if you are a guy and the idea of giving another guy or receiving from another guy oral sex does not appeal to you, you are probably not gay.

And what if you are? Well then good on you, give it a shot if you want ! rather then wandering "what am I" why not ask, "what do I like" and do whatever it is that you thing you will like, may it be straight sex, oral sex, gay sex, kinky sex fetish sex, whatever you enjoy. And if anyone has a problem with it, then just tell them to stick it. simple.
 
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ronnie969a

all good posts, as others have hinted, I don't think it's a black and white issue, you can get turned on by the idea but not by the action, or see a man as attractive.... I'm envious of those Bi, afterall, that's 50% more potential partners for them.
 
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dalgy

I have had a couple of bi experiences always just oral ( recieving) or wanking each other but never sex, I just don't like the idea of sex with a man, love anal with a women but with a man can not bring myself to do it
 
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Sextek

i like the idea of giving and receiving oral with men but not so much anal, i possibly would like to receive anal under the right conditions though. purely for the feeling of something hard against my prostate. pity my last gf couldnt understand it though.

it was damn hard to hold back the fact that id had random oral sex with strangers as well.
 
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gr8stuff

It can be a difficult time that you are going through.
I am a male now 50.
I had many experiences in my youth, never anal sex from another guy.
many offers even fingered by a guy whilst he went down on me.
this helped pay bills when I was broke and 20.
must admit the finger in the arse whilst cumming felt great.
However I did feel used after the times of getting head and giving massages.

hated when I went to Swanbourne and the guys in the hills gave me attention all the time when all I wanted was seeing and having pussy.

Use care as you may have regrets I know I did
 
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adam74

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For me the off putting part of the question is more having sex with a couple I wouldn't have met before. I'm naturally a fairly cautious person and I would want to feel comfortable around them before getting into that sort of situation.
 
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ladyj

hi
I dont think a book can tell you what you are. Its ok to think someone of the same sex is FINE ! but that doesn't mean your bi. I think it all comes down to you and the feelings you have with individuals.
 
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