DISCRETION ‼️🚨
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. Better then being outted by a car accident.
Lexx Soule
Silver Member
This would have been really awkward and reading through the thread I now have a much clearer understanding as to why - could be with colleagues from another job, be with children, family that don't know about your private life the list goes on. Being face out myself I have opened my mind up to the possibility of receiving those waves, smiles and expressions of acknowledgement from time to time.
While I and many others already had the emotional intelligence of this rule, I can see how there might be a lot of clients who have no emotional intelligence of any of the rules. If they are not on these forums, or found the pages like the good client guide on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/thegoodclientguide/) How would they know the etiquette. The Good Client Guide only has 1,148 followers......
Your post has now encouraged me to think about some rules to confer with my clients at the conclusions of bookings to ensure a safe & professional relationship. Maybe some of you already do this, there would an awful lot of providers that don't. As this industry moves forward and becomes more public we as providers have to come to the understanding that the general public in our services need to be educated on these things.
We need more posts and forums like this one, a passive way of educating people on the rules before unfortunate events like this happen. And if you are a client and have potential friends who may become clients or are existing clients, have those conversations about the rules you know, or how different providers operate - of course within the perimeters of privacy that you feel comfortable. Even ask your new provider if they have any rules at the conclusion of your time together.
Again, maybe you do these things as a provider or client, great! but there are a lot that wouldn't.
Slowly this industry is becoming more accepted publicly, and both providers & clients play a role in keeping it safe, fun, and professional.
Great post Francesca!
While I and many others already had the emotional intelligence of this rule, I can see how there might be a lot of clients who have no emotional intelligence of any of the rules. If they are not on these forums, or found the pages like the good client guide on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/thegoodclientguide/) How would they know the etiquette. The Good Client Guide only has 1,148 followers......
Your post has now encouraged me to think about some rules to confer with my clients at the conclusions of bookings to ensure a safe & professional relationship. Maybe some of you already do this, there would an awful lot of providers that don't. As this industry moves forward and becomes more public we as providers have to come to the understanding that the general public in our services need to be educated on these things.
We need more posts and forums like this one, a passive way of educating people on the rules before unfortunate events like this happen. And if you are a client and have potential friends who may become clients or are existing clients, have those conversations about the rules you know, or how different providers operate - of course within the perimeters of privacy that you feel comfortable. Even ask your new provider if they have any rules at the conclusion of your time together.
Again, maybe you do these things as a provider or client, great! but there are a lot that wouldn't.
Slowly this industry is becoming more accepted publicly, and both providers & clients play a role in keeping it safe, fun, and professional.
Great post Francesca!
Lexx Soule
Silver Member
It's a little more then that though. With respect this line of work is not 'just like any other job'. We as providers deserve the same amount of respect legally and socially, but it is not the same as being an accountant, owning a small candle making business, or making shoes. We are providing a fundamental human nature need. human to human connection, intimacy, and if requested sex. Now that the industry is slowly becoming decriminalised we can have professional business structures set up, with real safety measures. But it does not mean this is a 'normal' job.
Sex can be powerful, and while there is money involved that does not prevent the psychological or spiritual attachment that can come with sex. Look at porn. Artificial sex. yet actresses and actors have 'fans' who form attachments. Unless the providers have the knowledge of how to deescalate relationships it can become quite bad.