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can you be friends with someone your in love with?

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As the title says.. can you end up being friends with someone you have romantic feelings for? If so.. how? Or are you just torturing yourself with trying?
 
My answer is yes.........but boundaries and respect has to be intact and paramount.

Both ways or one way in both directions.....


There is a lot more to it I know. But that is the short answer.
 
Yes your partner or lover can also be a friend....but to progress to this level feelings must be mutual...not built on infatuation. If the relationship is built upon sex then forget the friendship aspect

Each must have trust in the other and recognize and respect that the other is entitled to their own time out.

If you are prone to jealousy then the prospect of friendship is doomed

For the friendship to grow each should avoid discussions based on religion or politics

You must have things in common that both enjoy and you can do and share together

I have an ex girlfriend from many years ago and we still are good friends...so it can work
 
sorry ive never been in love.so dont know the feeling it gives you.so how can u love them ,but not be friends with them Doesnt love and friendship go hand in hand together
 
I think this sort of discussion tends to go off the rails when people confuse "Love" and "Sex" which are two entirely different things although they should travel together.

Same sex freindships are much simpler. You enjoy each others company, usually share common interests and help each other out in any way you can.

It is crosss-gender relationships which cause confusion and here the nature of the relationship needs to be defined more clearly by both parties. If two people are in love (whatever that is) and are having a sexual relationship it is natural to consider making the arrangement permanent. If neither or one does not want that then, ideally, they should remain friends but the person seeking permanence has only limited time to find a mate and needs to move on.

Keeping a lover "on a string" so there is someone there to "scratch the itch" occasionally is downright selfish but being there for them in need and maintaining a mutually respectful friendship is a good thing for both. This is particularly important if you both work together or otherwise cross paths frequently.
 
Thatguy said:
As the title says.. can you end up being friends with someone you have romantic feelings for? If so.. how? Or are you just torturing yourself with trying?
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If you mean that you have romantic feelings for someone and the other person has friend zoned you, can you stay friends knowing you can't act on your feelings?

Yes I've done it but it hurts every time we met up and worse if I saw her with a romantic interest. So best to avoid the pain and find someone who reciprocates your feelings.
 
Dallas said:
If you mean that you have romantic feelings for someone and the other person has friend zoned you, can you stay friends knowing you can't act on your feelings?

Yes I've done it but it hurts every time we met up and worse if I saw her with a romantic interest. So best to avoid the pain and find someone who reciprocates your feelings.
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yes this is the situation...
 
If you love her and she just wants to be friends.....its uncomfortable for you and uncomfortable for her I would imagine , knowing what your true feelings are. Not really a good grounding for a friendship.
I have found it difficult to be just friends with men (except gay men) as sex usually comes into the equation somewhere along the line.
 
Cyclone Tracey said:
If you love her and she just wants to be friends.....its uncomfortable for you and uncomfortable for her I would imagine , knowing what your true feelings are. Not really a good grounding for a friendship.
I have found it difficult to be just friends with men (except gay men) as sex usually comes into the equation somewhere along the line.
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That's only because you are such a hot Babe.... for Sex to come into the equation!:p:p:p
 
Good question
Can I be friends with someone I love ???

In fact I'm still friends with my ex after 10 yrs together how can I not have a friendship but loving him has gone now so friends and love can work it just depends on what you call love ??

Can I be friends with someone I'm in love with ??
Well I think I can but if they had a girlfriend it would be hard but I wouldn't cross the line i would stay as friends :)
 
I think guys find it harder to be just friends with a girl he is in love or attracted to. Girls can easily friendzone guys ;) lol
 
Thatguy said:
As the title says.. can you end up being friends with someone you have romantic feelings for? If so.. how? Or are you just torturing yourself with trying?
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I have enough friends, friends are great to meet up, have a laugh, discuss the weekly crap and so on, why would i want that from a girl i want on my dick???………if a girl says she wants to be my mate thats cool, invite her down to the local and she can hang…….i bet that lasts 13.5 minutes………..
 
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