BURN OUT CURE ? ! (For Sex Workers)

[Candice Cruz]

/18th September 2019
Shift start at 1230hrs.
Draft post since 0300hrs;
Booking$ from 0700-1100hrs.
Completed at 1358hrs\
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*Source: mnsexualhealth​

Put aside the need for all the glamour... ​

What does sex-worker burn out mean to you? ​

~ I’m guilty of denying the fact that I am close to burn out, and almost all the times that I am experiencing burn out- it is then that I come to the realisation, after the confrontation of someone else. Burn out to me is the state of being overworked, uninspired and numb.

What triggers are you aware of? ​

~ Because I know I have high energy levels to stay alert and awake for lengthy hours and the tolerance of emptiness of time; physical exhaustion is the clear sign that causes my awareness of burning out.

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*Source: anniesparkle.org(asm)​

This infographic shows 12 steps in curing sex worker burn out, by Dr Annie Sparkle.
Former “NYC prostitute and porn star for twenty years, then morphed into an artist and sexologist. She has passionately explored sexuality for over forty years, sharing her experiences through making her own unique brand of feminist sex films, writing books and articles, visual art making, creating theater performances, and teaching.”

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*Source: Sex Workers Outreach Project​

The Sex Workers Outreach Project’s input towards mental health, is only something I’ve come to terms with admitting to myself as an issue. Because I do tend to get delusional and follow through with grandiose thoughts of being superhuman; underestimating the power of relaxation and recuperation when it comes to sex work, (so I may be a workaholic during my best days... but that may also be a downfall when I don’t give myself breaks)

What coping mechanisms(?) do you use to get through work related stress?​

~ After every shift I try to get sunlight. Many studies have proven that light therapy does wonders for improving moods for certain mental illnesses. I definitely agree with it, and since knowing those facts; sunshine has eliminated a lot of stress from my shoulders.
Also, from a young age- martial arts has made an incredible difference in my life; I’ve always used it as a good way of expressing our emotions that I don’t want to let out verbally, and fun yet challenging way to exercise.

*Source: Health.Harvard.edu

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Food for thought & final question:

SW’s and/or management:
What can we do to improve the quality of workplace wellbeing?



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All smiles;
with unconditional positive regards,

Candice Cameron

WL @ Langtrees VIP Canberra | 0431 923 756
Twitter | Instagram ​

 

[Shae Demasi]

Great post, Thank you for sharing.

 

[Sophie South]

Wow, I think I nearly gave myself a bit of whiplash from how hard I've been nodding while reading this post!

I only do a couple of these things, so I've got tons of room for improvement. Thank you for the reminder; it can be easy to forget that we're not superhuman and need to recharge and recover from time to time.

 

[Candice Cruz]

Wow, I think I nearly gave myself a bit of whiplash from how hard I've been nodding while reading this post!

I only do a couple of these things, so I've got tons of room for improvement. Thank you for the reminder; it can be easy to forget that we're not superhuman and need to recharge and recover from time to time.

I need constant reminding myself
We do need to take care of ourselves, health comes first and we often take it for granted; if we’re not healthy and well, how would we be able to work?

 

[Marnie]

Awesome and informative post, I love it! Mental health is so important, when you stop putting that first everything else can start going down hill..

 

[Vineta Sexting]

@CandiceCameron Informative post xx

 

[Harper Quinn]

Such a great post Candice! We need to realise we need time for ourselves because our work can be so draining mentally and physically! Stress is a factor in it aswell and it can all pile up on us!

 

[Jacqui Luxe]

Amazing advice, burn out is a killer! I think we've all pushed ourselves further than we should at one point or another, one great thing with growing as a person and a worker is learning how to listen to your body (and to advice from others!)

 

[Candice Cruz]

@Chantelle James @Sophie South
@Marnie VIP Perth @Vineta
@Harper Quinn @Jacqui Luxe



I’m overwhelmed with the support and response from this post. So thank you all!
It does need to be addressed, and I feel it’s one of the topics (mental health) that I can contribute the most in, for this forum.​

With regards to general “chit chat and gossip,” I have no idea what to talk about lol.
I’ll continue to come up with other topics in this part of the forum “general health,” etc.

I appreciate the motivation Xox

 

[Sophie South]

Thank you so much for your sharing, as I have no doubt that you have provided a lot of support and motivation for us all with your kind words and pure intentions. So wholesome!

 

[Farm Boy 2]

Well I am not a working Lady but some of you guys work all night and sleep in the day this in its self is draining .


Shift work sleep disorder (SWSD) is a circadian rhythm sleep disorder characterized by insomnia and excessive sleepiness affecting people whose work hours overlap with the typical sleep period. Insomnia can be the difficulty to fall asleep or to wake up before the individual has slept enough.[1] The excessive sleepiness appears when the individual has to be productive, awake and alert.[1] Both symptoms are predominant in SWSD.[2] There are numerous shift work schedules, and they may be permanent, intermittent, or rotating; consequently, the manifestations of SWSD are quite variable. Most people with different schedules than the ordinary one (from 8 AM to 6 PM) might have these symptoms but the difference is that SWSD is continual, long-term lasting and starts to interfere with the individual's life, like the social life and the professional life.[1]


Associated health risks[edit]
There have been many studies suggesting health risks associated with shift work. For example, a 2007 study led by the IARC (International Agency for Research on Cancer) showed that shiftwork has been associated with cancer.[3][4] Other studies have reported that night workers have an increased incidence of heart disease, digestive disorders and menstrual irregularities.[5] Michael Lee et al. demonstrated that those working night shifts had a significantly higher risk of hazardous driving events when compared to those on a typical day shift schedule.[6] Because a formal diagnosis of SWSD was not typically made in these studies, it remains unclear whether the reported risks apply to the subset of shiftworkers who qualify for a diagnosis of SWSD or apply to all shiftworkers.
SWSD can increase the risk of mental disorders like depression or other mood issues.[1] The circadian system regulates the rate of chemical substances in the body, but if this system is impaired, several consequences are possible.[1] They can affect the individual's social life and cause a lack of well-being and happiness.[1] Alcohol or drug use disorder can also be risk factors, which might also worsen the situation.[2]


Stolen from Wikipedia

 

[Candice Cruz]

Well I am not a working Lady but some of you guys work all night and sleep in the day this in its self is draining .


Shift work sleep disorder (SWSD) is a circadian rhythm sleep disorder characterized by insomnia and excessive sleepiness affecting people whose work hours overlap with the typical sleep period. Insomnia can be the difficulty to fall asleep or to wake up before the individual has slept enough.[1] The excessive sleepiness appears when the individual has to be productive, awake and alert.[1] Both symptoms are predominant in SWSD.[2] There are numerous shift work schedules, and they may be permanent, intermittent, or rotating; consequently, the manifestations of SWSD are quite variable. Most people with different schedules than the ordinary one (from 8 AM to 6 PM) might have these symptoms but the difference is that SWSD is continual, long-term lasting and starts to interfere with the individual's life, like the social life and the professional life.[1]


Associated health risks[edit]
There have been many studies suggesting health risks associated with shift work. For example, a 2007 study led by the IARC (International Agency for Research on Cancer) showed that shiftwork has been associated with cancer.[3][4] Other studies have reported that night workers have an increased incidence of heart disease, digestive disorders and menstrual irregularities.[5] Michael Lee et al. demonstrated that those working night shifts had a significantly higher risk of hazardous driving events when compared to those on a typical day shift schedule.[6] Because a formal diagnosis of SWSD was not typically made in these studies, it remains unclear whether the reported risks apply to the subset of shiftworkers who qualify for a diagnosis of SWSD or apply to all shiftworkers.
SWSD can increase the risk of mental disorders like depression or other mood issues.[1] The circadian system regulates the rate of chemical substances in the body, but if this system is impaired, several consequences are possible.[1] They can affect the individual's social life and cause a lack of well-being and happiness.[1] Alcohol or drug use disorder can also be risk factors, which might also worsen the situation.[2]


Stolen from Wikipedia

Circadin sleep tablets (melatonin) actually helps and regulates the sleep pattern. (Speaking from my own experience only)

all smiles~

☀Candice Cameron
WL @ Langtrees VIP Canberra | 0431 923 756
Twitter | Instagram​

 

[Pluck a Duck]

Burnout cure? Easy!

Me!

 

[Candice Cruz]

https://twitter.com/i/web/status/963152020680200192

 

[Candice Cruz]

 

[Candice Cruz]

Sex Worker Burnout | A Personal Account | sienna-james.com

Sex Worker Burnout is serious. Think of it as a superbug-strength strain, and when you catch it, you know about it. Read more here.

sienna-james.com

 

[Katrina Kiss]

/18th September 2019
Shift start at 1230hrs.
Draft post since 0300hrs;
Booking$ from 0700-1100hrs.
Completed at 1358hrs\
​

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View attachment 70842
*Source: mnsexualhealth​

Put aside the need for all the glamour... ​

What does sex-worker burn out mean to you? ​

~ I’m guilty of denying the fact that I am close to burn out, and almost all the times that I am experiencing burn out- it is then that I come to the realisation, after the confrontation of someone else. Burn out to me is the state of being overworked, uninspired and numb.

What triggers are you aware of? ​

~ Because I know I have high energy levels to stay alert and awake for lengthy hours and the tolerance of emptiness of time; physical exhaustion is the clear sign that causes my awareness of burning out.

—


View attachment 70843
*Source: anniesparkle.org(asm)​

This infographic shows 12 steps in curing sex worker burn out, by Dr Annie Sparkle.
Former “NYC prostitute and porn star for twenty years, then morphed into an artist and sexologist. She has passionately explored sexuality for over forty years, sharing her experiences through making her own unique brand of feminist sex films, writing books and articles, visual art making, creating theater performances, and teaching.”

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*Source: Sex Workers Outreach Project​

The Sex Workers Outreach Project’s input towards mental health, is only something I’ve come to terms with admitting to myself as an issue. Because I do tend to get delusional and follow through with grandiose thoughts of being superhuman; underestimating the power of relaxation and recuperation when it comes to sex work, (so I may be a workaholic during my best days... but that may also be a downfall when I don’t give myself breaks)

What coping mechanisms(?) do you use to get through work related stress?​

~ After every shift I try to get sunlight. Many studies have proven that light therapy does wonders for improving moods for certain mental illnesses. I definitely agree with it, and since knowing those facts; sunshine has eliminated a lot of stress from my shoulders.
Also, from a young age- martial arts has made an incredible difference in my life; I’ve always used it as a good way of expressing our emotions that I don’t want to let out verbally, and fun yet challenging way to exercise.

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*Source: Health.Harvard.edu

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Food for thought & final question:

SW’s and/or management:
What can we do to improve the quality of workplace wellbeing?

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​

All smiles;
with unconditional positive regards,

Candice Cameron

WL @ Langtrees VIP Canberra | 0431 923 756
Twitter | Instagram ​

Great post Candice , we all need to make sure we self love ! ❤

 

[TantraShiva]

Thats why booking a tantra session for yourself can be so beneficial. Have all the focus on you for a change to relax and unwind. /self plug

 

[Katrina Kiss]

Thats why booking a tantra session for yourself can be so beneficial. Have all the focus on you for a change to relax and unwind. /self plug

How much ?

 

[Candice Cruz]

Great post Candice , we all need to make sure we self love ! ❤

I honestly need to keep reminding myself haha

 

[Candice Cruz]

Wow, I think I nearly gave myself a bit of whiplash from how hard I've been nodding while reading this post!

I only do a couple of these things, so I've got tons of room for improvement. Thank you for the reminder; it can be easy to forget that we're not superhuman and need to recharge and recover from time to time.

whiplash? Now that sounds like you need some r&r, actual massage therapyyyyy

 

[Candice Cruz]

Burnout cure? Easy!

Me!

cure? You?

I’m pretty sure I’d be the reason as to WHY you resulted with such burn out HAHAHAH

 

[TantraShiva]

How much ?

Depends on the type of session you are after

 

[Phoebe]

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How True!!!

 

[Candice Cruz]

How True!!!

 

[WildBrumby]

Great, insightful post this one.

I have been giving thought about the wisdom of sharing awesome experiences as a client in forums.

What can happen is your favourite lady can then become swamped and be busier than a one armed bricklayer in Baghdad.

It could lead to burnout and losing your favourite lady from the industry by tipping the balance.

Over recent years I usually look for any signs when I visit that the lady may have had a hard day.

I then switch gears and offer to give her a soothing massage instead, thereby using the time with me to recharge and relax before continuing her shift when I go.

I find it an equally enjoying experience giving as receiving so I don’t mind.

But most value from sharing in these forums for me is finding out the places to avoid.

I can understand sharing favourable encounters, when someone inquires before visiting, are helpful. I try to be sparing knowing an over glowing report can see the lady get swamped.

Just my thought process at the moment. I appreciated reading through this post and comments. Insightful.

 

[jebradio]

If time permits I usually share the massage duties it makes a nice change and builds a better connection.. the WL always appreciate it more than just the norm... in my view treat every woman as you would your girlfriend.... or wife during the first 3 years of marriage

 

[WildBrumby]

If time permits I usually share the massage duties it makes a nice change and builds a better connection.. the WL always appreciate it more than just the norm... in my view treat every woman as you would your girlfriend.... or wife during the first 3 years of marriage

Very true.

 

[No idea what to do]

or wife during the first 3 years of marriage.
Until the supply is cut or the Love tunnel closes, and then we need to perform on demand

The Frenchman

Very interesting conversation and opinions,
Because the lady's appear to work so hard and are available between 10am and 2am in some cases.
They need to rest and have a few day's to themselves each week.
My Opinion

 

[WildBrumby]

or wife during the first 3 years of marriage.
Until the supply is cut or the Love tunnel closes, and then we need to perform on demand

The Frenchman

Very interesting conversation and opinions,
Because the lady's appear to work so hard and are available between 10am and 2am in some cases.
They need to rest and have a few day's to themselves each week.
My Opinion

I’ve seen some private WLs over the years working long days, sometimes seven days a week, age themselves prematurely, then burnout and leave or become bitter. (Personal Observation.)