Best Sex Books & Book recommendations
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Sir Cruiser
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Not read it but saw some promo's for the film, not sure about it but do let us know what you think, perhaps in the form of a review. If you want to try something like that, go book Maria at PT for a Perfect Surrender, I am very sure you will enjoy it, I know I did.
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Oh my gosh, don't get me started on 50 shades... haha.
This book has come under a lot of critique from day one, for good reason. Not only because of the subject, which to the majority of the target audience, is a bit 'naughty' and forbidden; but because of the repercussions that is had for the bdsm scene. What people fail to remember is that is was written as twilight fan-fiction, and as a trashy romance novel it's actually not too bad as far as the genre goes.
However, when people look at the relationship between the protagonist and the infamous Mr. Grey, and label the abuse that takes place constantly throughout the series as 'bdsm' or D/s, it becomes worrying.
The community who practise bdsm as a lifestyle have worked hard to maintain a 'code of conduct' as it were, a mantra summed up as SSC (safe, sane, consensual). This is what helps to differentiate 'play' from 'abuse', which the author has failed to recognise in her basic google search of kink. The type of activities depicted in the series, (while hot as hell) are in fact quite dangerous if the person involved is inexperienced, both physically and psychologically. The protagonist is throughout the series, consistently pressured into doing things she isn't comfortable with, emotionally manipulated and is provided with no aftercare or support after several traumatising scenes.
For someone who has no previous knowledge to read this and go, 'hey, beating and degrading my partner sounds like fun!' is just asking for trouble. The amount of injuries I have seen (and personally attained) at the hand of people unwilling to research and learn things is remarkable, nerve damage from poorly tied restraints, internal bleeding from misplaced striking, to going into shock from unrecognised subdrop.
Moral of the story: Not everything you read is accurate. Do your research, communicate with your partner and while you should always be endeavouring to grow and experience new things, be cautious.
(apologies for the essay, bit of a sore point haha)
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This book has come under a lot of critique from day one, for good reason. Not only because of the subject, which to the majority of the target audience, is a bit 'naughty' and forbidden; but because of the repercussions that is had for the bdsm scene. What people fail to remember is that is was written as twilight fan-fiction, and as a trashy romance novel it's actually not too bad as far as the genre goes.
However, when people look at the relationship between the protagonist and the infamous Mr. Grey, and label the abuse that takes place constantly throughout the series as 'bdsm' or D/s, it becomes worrying.
The community who practise bdsm as a lifestyle have worked hard to maintain a 'code of conduct' as it were, a mantra summed up as SSC (safe, sane, consensual). This is what helps to differentiate 'play' from 'abuse', which the author has failed to recognise in her basic google search of kink. The type of activities depicted in the series, (while hot as hell) are in fact quite dangerous if the person involved is inexperienced, both physically and psychologically. The protagonist is throughout the series, consistently pressured into doing things she isn't comfortable with, emotionally manipulated and is provided with no aftercare or support after several traumatising scenes.
For someone who has no previous knowledge to read this and go, 'hey, beating and degrading my partner sounds like fun!' is just asking for trouble. The amount of injuries I have seen (and personally attained) at the hand of people unwilling to research and learn things is remarkable, nerve damage from poorly tied restraints, internal bleeding from misplaced striking, to going into shock from unrecognised subdrop.
Moral of the story: Not everything you read is accurate. Do your research, communicate with your partner and while you should always be endeavouring to grow and experience new things, be cautious.
(apologies for the essay, bit of a sore point haha)
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funflyer
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Lol! I just bought it in an English language bookshop in Bangkok for a read on the plane on my way home. No hidden desires or intensions! Of course I realise it's a work of fiction.
My reading of the book has actually been delayed so I still haven't got to the interesting bits yet!
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Haha I still recommend it as a bit of light reading, but it just worries me that the target audience is obviously younger women, and romanticising abuse can't lead to anything good!
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Thanks, Kitty, learned a new term today.
Sub Drop. The temporary depression experienced by submissives/masochists after intense BDSM play. Fuller explanations for other ignorami like me:
http://www.submissiveguide.com/2009/03/sub-drops-emotional-side/
https://tiedupready.wordpress.com/2013/05/12/what-is-sub-drop/
Sub Drop. The temporary depression experienced by submissives/masochists after intense BDSM play. Fuller explanations for other ignorami like me:
http://www.submissiveguide.com/2009/03/sub-drops-emotional-side/
https://tiedupready.wordpress.com/2013/05/12/what-is-sub-drop/
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Thanks for the link, and anyone interested in heavier play should be aware of the changes that happen to the body chemically, and what that means. Subspace, and the following subdrop are real and commonplace in extended or intense play. If unrecognised it is easy to go overboard and damage a person, simply because their pain sensors have shut down and they are no longer in touch with their bodies' limits.
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OMG!!! THE MOVIE COMES OUT SOON!!!! I CANT WAIT TO BE DISAPOINTED BECAUSE THE MOVIE IS NOTHING LIKE THE BOOK.... STILL!!! IT WILL BE MY FIRST EVER R RATED MOVIE!!!
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Absolutely!!! I like the thought of the book, not so much about people going out and trying to re create scenes in them. That would be like a virgin to the BDSM world being trusted to use a cane/ sjambok on their partners lol
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There was another trilogy of books which does better for being both trashy romance and better example of BDSM and that was the books written by Tara Sue Me: The Submissive, The Dominant and The Training. I really enjoyed the fact that first book was written from the submissive pov and the second written from the dominant. It's definitely worth the read.
Sir Cruiser
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So what was the third viewpoint ?
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I'm actually yet to find out lol! I read the first about 2years ago and read the second in record time a few weeks ago, but I believe the third is due out in July or August... this is why I don't watch tv until the entire season is available!!! I don't like waiting for plot conclusions!!!!
this is why I don't watch tv until the entire season is available!!! I don't like waiting for plot conclusions!!!!
Sir Cruiser
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I agree especially if they can it before the end lolI'm actually yet to find out lol! I read the first about 2years ago and read the second in record time a few weeks ago, but I believe the third is due out in July or August...
Luxi Summer
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haven"t read the book but cant wait to see the movie once its out
scarlett lee
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Would also recommend these books for those who like an element of fantasy in their kink/erotic fiction.
The Sleeping Beauty Quartet
The Sleeping Beauty Quartet is a series of four novels written by American author Anne Rice under the pseudonym of A. N. Roquelaure. The quartet comprises The Claiming of Sleeping Beauty, Beauty's Punishment,Beauty's Release, and Beauty's Kingdom, first published individually in 1983, 1984, 1985, and 2015 in the United States. They are erotic BDSM novels set in a medieval fantasy world, loosely based on the fairy tale ofSleeping Beauty. The novels describe explicit sexual adventures of the female protagonist Beauty and the male characters Alexi, Tristan and Laurent, featuring both maledom and femdom scenarios amid vivid imageries of bisexuality, homosexuality, ephebophilia and pony play.[1]
The Sleeping Beauty Quartet
The Sleeping Beauty Quartet is a series of four novels written by American author Anne Rice under the pseudonym of A. N. Roquelaure. The quartet comprises The Claiming of Sleeping Beauty, Beauty's Punishment,Beauty's Release, and Beauty's Kingdom, first published individually in 1983, 1984, 1985, and 2015 in the United States. They are erotic BDSM novels set in a medieval fantasy world, loosely based on the fairy tale ofSleeping Beauty. The novels describe explicit sexual adventures of the female protagonist Beauty and the male characters Alexi, Tristan and Laurent, featuring both maledom and femdom scenarios amid vivid imageries of bisexuality, homosexuality, ephebophilia and pony play.[1]
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Gosh, just learned another new word in this thread: Ephebophilia is the primary or exclusive adult sexual interest in mid-to-late adolescents, generally ages 15 to 19.
Phew! So despite the occasional schoolgirl fantasy, I'm not an ephebophile since I'm not obsessed with teenage girls.
Phew! So despite the occasional schoolgirl fantasy, I'm not an ephebophile since I'm not obsessed with teenage girls.
scarlett lee
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Yeah, had to look that one up myself XLNC!Gosh, just learned another new word in this thread: Ephebophilia is the primary or exclusive adult sexual interest in mid-to-late adolescents, generally ages 15 to 19.
Phew! So despite the occasional schoolgirl fantasy, I'm not an ephebophile since I'm not obsessed with teenage girls.
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Sir Cruiser
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It's good enough to write lol