Almost 40 years Old Virgin asking for advice!!

razgrizhan

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Hi everyone here, normally I am what you you called silent reader in the forum, but i love what you are doing here. after reading a couple of post in sex education forum, I would like to ask some advice from you if possible. Before that let me introduce about myself a bit long introduction hope you all dont mind and forgive my grammar :

My age is 38years old now (so thats why the title written almost 40 years old). as the tile said "Technically I never have an intercourse with a woman (it means never have my penis inside vagina :(, i i know right it so sad, it reminded with a movie with Steve Carrell title 40years old virgin will become true in mycase") .

I am an asian guy, I was born in a christian family hence i always being educated from my parents is dont have sex until you are married this one of the main factor that I am still virgin) . I was not born in Australia but moving here 7 years alone by studying to become a chef , now working as chef, I have to work like around 12-13hours a day for my visa requirement sponsorship hence i don't go out much.

anyway get to the point, I am a bit overweight and have small dick so I dont feel attractive enough to date a woman here where sex is kinda common when dating (before i had some long distance relationship with a woman through online call/chat only from my country, but since her parents dont agree that she comes here in Perth we broke up , after that i dont have enough time, energy or confidence to try look another woman here), I dont really have a lot money either from become a chef, is enough for my self but not confident that when I think if I am married it wont be easy from financial point of view, hence the hesitant to get marry also not in my mind until recently)

I am shy guy, I can not really start a conversation especially with new people man or woman (very nervous about dating)) I am introvert guy who enjoyed alone staying at home playing video games, watching movies and watching lots of porn, i kinda okay with my loneliness by busy working or having those hobbies, I dont want to get married for now because I think I am not ready to be responsible enough for marriage , Kinda like a "Neet"guy is what term in Japanese Term. Anyway i keep blabering now will get to the main point . I am really afraid/nervous to meet new people/dating because of those factor. I've been to AMP several times with getting extra like HJ or CBj but never try the FS. But lately I feel i want to try it. but since I am too nervous with dating should I try with WL? What you all think about my situation any advice?
 
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Tania Admin

Thank you for being so honest with us.

My personal opinion is have some experimentation with WL's. Always be sure they are a Safe Sex provider 1st.
I think it is safer than the dating scene and will also give you a few skills which should help with your confidence when you do date.
Be honest with the WL and tell her you're an inexperienced virgin. A mature WL over 30 is probably your best bet as she will be more relaxed and more willing to tutor as such.
Definitely save up and book a full hour so that you can actually relax and take things easy.
@Cayla Cream would be my recommendation for your 1st time.

 

razgrizhan

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Thank you for being so honest with us.

My personal opinion is have some experimentation with WL's. Always be sure they are a Safe Sex provider 1st.
I think it is safer than the dating scene and will also give you a few skills which should help with your confidence when you do date.
Be honest with the WL and tell her you're an inexperienced virgin. A mature WL over 30 is probably your best bet as she will be more relaxed and more willing to tutor as such.
Definitely save up and book a full hour so that you can actually relax and take things easy.
@Cayla Cream would be my recommendation for your 1st time.

Thank you Tania for the reccomendation
 

Cayla Cream

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Thank you for being so honest with us.

My personal opinion is have some experimentation with WL's. Always be sure they are a Safe Sex provider 1st.
I think it is safer than the dating scene and will also give you a few skills which should help with your confidence when you do date.
Be honest with the WL and tell her you're an inexperienced virgin. A mature WL over 30 is probably your best bet as she will be more relaxed and more willing to tutor as such.
Definitely save up and book a full hour so that you can actually relax and take things easy.
@Cayla Cream would be my recommendation for your 1st time.

Thankyou Tania, AusGopher.....

Yes it would be lovely to meet you Razgrizhan, Im very open minded and experienced with a wide variety of people whether you are a Virgin, Shy or Nervous i can definately make you feel at ease.
I give an amazing massage and have a good range of relaxing music to get us nice and comfortable xo
Come in and have a chat anytime, Looking forward to it Honey xo
 

razgrizhan

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Thankyou Tania, AusGopher.....

Yes it would be lovely to meet you Razgrizhan, Im very open minded and experienced with a wide variety of people whether you are a Virgin, Shy or Nervous i can definately make you feel at ease.
I give an amazing massage and have a good range of relaxing music to get us nice and comfortable xo
Come in and have a chat anytime, Looking forward to it Honey xo
Thank you Kayla will consider it thank you for reaching out
 

sadistic666

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Wish I joined this forum earlier. I was also in a similar situation until recently (I’m just a few years younger than you). It took me three attempts so far and the third time to learn where to stick it in 😓. Nothing was what I expected and I think part of it may have been nerves. Also the places I went to didn’t play any music so maybe that didn’t help. I actually couldn’t get it hard enough to cum and had to masturbate myself off in the end of that third time. I also found that any position where she wasn’t on top was very physically difficult for me and didn’t feel good - I guess sex is like a sport that takes a bit of practice to master.
 

Lukey

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Wish I joined this forum earlier. I was also in a similar situation until recently (I’m just a few years younger than you). It took me three attempts so far and the third time to learn where to stick it in 😓. Nothing was what I expected and I think part of it may have been nerves. Also the places I went to didn’t play any music so maybe that didn’t help. I actually couldn’t get it hard enough to cum and had to masturbate myself off in the end of that third time. I also found that any position where she wasn’t on top was very physically difficult for me and didn’t feel good - I guess sex is like a sport that takes a bit of practice to master.

Cheers for sharing. Yeah, the first time usually sucks man. Mine was with my first GF, same thing; couldn’t get hard enough to do the job properly, felt really awkward 🤦😆 Trust me though, next time/s should be better & better & before ya know it, you’ll be addicted 😉
 

sadistic666

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Thanks. Yeah the other problem I seem to have these days after I get hard is staying hard, as it seems to get flacid pretty quickly. There used to be a time when just the thought of a sexy lady would get me hard. Nowadays I guess its because I’ve watched too much porn - and I guess its desensitised me?
 

Lukey

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Thanks. Yeah the other problem I seem to have these days after I get hard is staying hard, as it seems to get flacid pretty quickly. There used to be a time when just the thought of a sexy lady would get me hard. Nowadays I guess its because I’ve watched too much porn - and I guess its desensitised me?

Could be. I’m no expert but I’d suggest:
- Reduce the porn use
- Don’t masturbate a few days at least before you intend to have sex
- Try different sex positions to find the ones that work best for ya
- Consider getting a script for viagra off a GP; this should help you stay hard
 

C7Vol

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Thanks. Yeah the other problem I seem to have these days after I get hard is staying hard, as it seems to get flacid pretty quickly. There used to be a time when just the thought of a sexy lady would get me hard. Nowadays I guess its because I’ve watched too much porn - and I guess its desensitised me?

Yes, discuss with your GP. There are various things which can cause this. Problems with blood pressure, blood sugar levels, diabetes, high cholesterol, and other causes.
Try and actually find the baseline cause of the problem. It's unlikely to just be excessive visual stimulation.
 
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